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bumpmek

01-Aug-02, 02:47pm

Sex is bigtime important....... what Ponsdale said.

If i meet a guy, really like him, think it's all good and perfect.... whooo hoo a happy bumpy... then i take him to bed and screw him and its shit.... i dump the dude immediately as i know within myself this will bug me to no end throughout the relationship... offputting almost! Get my drift?:lol:

BTW, penis size is an issue... i don't care what anyone says.... it matters!

Minxie

01-Aug-02, 02:48pm

You love your Polls don't you Charley?

What do you do with all this information?

Charley

01-Aug-02, 02:50pm

:lol:

wouldn't you like to know!!

redambition

01-Aug-02, 02:53pm

charley, do you work for cosmo or something?

B Ja

01-Aug-02, 02:53pm

You could always teach them how to please you.

Crazybob

01-Aug-02, 02:54pm

If the sex was lousy, there'd be no relationship anyway. I always heve sex with someone b4 I even think about getting involved.

Charley

01-Aug-02, 02:57pm

Originally posted by redambition
charley, do you work for cosmo or something?

No, but maybe i should :P

jayjay

01-Aug-02, 03:02pm

what ponsdale said.

there is a massive difference between sex and making love!!! u can have a real good fuck but it aint got nuttin on makin sweet lovin!!!

if u r connected and in love with some1... i cant see how it could b bad.

Charley

01-Aug-02, 03:03pm

Originally posted by bumpmek
BTW, penis size is an issue... i don't care what anyone says.... it matters!

That's what i like about you bumpmek....no bullshit, you tell it how it is :)

& just quietly i agree with you :blush:

bumpmek

01-Aug-02, 03:05pm

:blush: :blush: :blush:

Crazybob

01-Aug-02, 03:11pm

Thankyou bumpmek, size DOES matter, I'm so sick of my "not so well endwed " mates tellin me otherwise.:-D

FunkStu

01-Aug-02, 03:18pm

Forehead mounted doesn't count, bob.

cheeky half

01-Aug-02, 03:23pm

Originally posted by Crazybob
Thankyou bumpmek, size DOESNT matter, I'm so sick of my "well endwed " mates tellin me otherwise. They don't seem to mind when I stuff em up the back passage with my 3 1/2 inches of man meat!:-D

Whatever floats ya boat Bobby!!!

Leasie

01-Aug-02, 03:24pm

I can honestly say that i dont think sex is the be all and end all of a relationship. I understand that you need to be satisfied but just cuz someone is good in bed doesn't make a relationship. You can pretend it does but it won't last.

Good sex can't save a bad relationship but a good relationship can save bad sex.

bumpmek

01-Aug-02, 03:31pm

Nope have to disagree with you there Leasie if that's ok....

If your partner doesn't get you off or blow your mind, it just doesn't work.... me and my guy have the ocassional quick fuck here and there when we're horny and that's gooood, very satisfying, but when we make love.... oh my oh my oh my.... it's literally earth shattering kinda sex..... now at the start when we met i was very nervous cause i was so keen on him then it came to the bedroom and i thought in my mind... please have an average size pecker and be good in bed, cause otherwise i'm gonna have to ditch ya as i don't see a point in continuing us if i can't get off in the bedroom...... but thankfuck he passed with flying colours......

I don't mean to sound shallow, just being honest..... it's the same if he had a thumb sized penis, i'd give him the heave ho... i need good tools to work with!

Bumpy waits to get flamed.... once again!

Tristan

01-Aug-02, 03:49pm

The thing is anyone who disagrees and flames bump is obviously lacking in one certain area

bumpmek

01-Aug-02, 03:51pm

:lol: :lol: :lol:

amilne

01-Aug-02, 03:53pm

A professor of mathematics sent a fax to his wife. It read:

"Dear Wife: You must realize that you are 54 years old, and I have certain
needs which you are no longer able to satisfy. I am otherwise happy with
you as a wife, and I sincerely hope you will not be hurt or offended to
learn that by the time you get this letter, I will be at the Grand Hotel
with my 18-year-old teaching assistant. I'll be home before midnight."
Your Hubby.

When he arrived at the hotel, there was a fax letter waiting for him that
read as follows:
"Dear Husband: You, too, are 54 years old, and by the time you receive
this
letter, I will be at the Breakwater Hotel with the 18-year-old pool boy.
Being the brilliant mathematician that you are, you can easily appreciate
the fact that 18 goes into 54 a lot more times than 54 goes into 18.
DON'T WAIT UP."

Charley

01-Aug-02, 03:55pm

:lol: :lol: :lol:

Bumpmek you crack me up!!!

I have been in a relationship where the sex was crap. It got to a point where i didn't want to have sex with him, so we didn't. For like 6 months (don't ask my how i survived that). Once there was no sex the whole relationship changed and just died.....

When you are in a relationship sex is not just fucking, it's like a closeness that only you two are sharing and it makes it so much better. People cheat if the sex is bad, they look elsewhere for it. Why stay in a relationship if you are not sexuallay satisfied....Sorry people but as much as you say sex isn't important, it is.....

bump - i fully support you in this one :)

Dbauch

01-Aug-02, 04:03pm

sex can improve with time :)

I like to give a person a chance - 6 months maximum

MissTrixi

01-Aug-02, 04:03pm

Originally posted by Leasie

Good sex can't save a bad relationship

I tend to disagree with ya here - speaking from a PAST experience good sex kept on saving a bad relationship. He was a real ass, and I was sick of him but man could he shag!
If its not good then I'm not going there. I fail to see how someone could be with someone that they weren't having great sex with. For me CLICKING in the bedroom IS essential to a relationship. I be so very lucky to have found someone that I don't just click with - man we explode! :blush:

fUnKy1

01-Aug-02, 04:04pm

Depends on how important sex is to <b>you</b>.

I'm with Leasie. It's not the be all and end all.

If it's good, you're cheering. If it's not, you lucked out in that department, but it doesn't mean the relationship is doomed. Love and sex are two different things.

And anyway, in most cases bad sex can be fixed. Just requires a bit of creativity, and some coaching :)

f1

quills

01-Aug-02, 04:19pm

Yeah im with Funky1 on this one.
It really does depends what level of importance you place on sex.

I, generally speaking, think that good sex is VERY important and that if the sex in a relationship is bad, it could lead to problems down the road.
However, in certain relationships I honestly dont think it matters. Sometimes (rarely, i admit) the mental connection is so strong that the sex is unimportant. But i agree that those situations are few and far between.

I could never be one of those people who wait until they are married to have sex with their partner. Surely you would want to know that you are sexually compatible with the person you will be sharing a bed with for the rest of your life?

miss apple

01-Aug-02, 04:20pm

I agree that it's not that be all and end all. If it's not that great and you love the person it can definitely be improved. If you love them, there is (or should be) much more open channels of communication. It should be easy to tell them what you like and they to tell you what they enjoy. Once you've worked that out it can only be good.

Funksta

01-Aug-02, 04:20pm

Good sex is important in any relationship, yet it cannot save a relationship that isn't working.

With my last girlfriend the sex was awesome, yet there was something lacking in our relationship. I mean we got along fine, i just couldn't stay with her for various reasons (that i won't bother y'all with).

Our solution?? to become more than 'friends' and less than 'lovers'... we decided to be f.uckbuddies. Now everything is great as we have got eachother whenever we want but we are not tied down to a relationship in any way.

So i guess that what i am trying to say is that nomatter how good your partner is in bed you will soon know if there is something else lacking in your relationship and it will inevitably lead to your relationship failing.

bumpmek

01-Aug-02, 04:23pm

FUCKBUDDIES = Someone always gets hurt.....!

Funksta

01-Aug-02, 04:25pm

you following me around the forums or something today bump?? :p

thegoat

01-Aug-02, 04:26pm

Just goes to show how supericial most women are (not saying it's a bad thing).

I've been in so many situations where I haven't given two shits about the chick who I was sleeping with, they were just mrs right now for a few weeks sort of thing, and they would not let go even though they knew I didn't give a shit, cause I happened to fuck the shit out of them.

What pisses me off is that almoost all women I know (my female friends not ex girlfriends), will MAKE UP QUALITIES for a guy that can shag them senseless. For example if a guy can't be arsed talking to a chick cause she bores him, the girlfriend will say "Oh, he's a real thinker".

Which is why the "we don't communicate enough" argument props up so often in a relationship. Why pretend that communication is important, if SIZE matters more. Why pretend that RESPECT is important, when you can fuck much better when you have little RESPECT for the person you are fucking....

and "lets MAKE LOVE" is a term women use to describe a situation where they are in a relationship with a guy who shags them well, but deep inside they know that the guy just couldn't give a shit...

Charley

01-Aug-02, 04:36pm

The goat i disagree with what you are saying.

I have the best relationship with my boyfriend and i love him with all my heart, he is the world to me. Just so happens he's fuckin awesome in bed.

I have never stayed with anyone because they are good in bed. I agree that a relationship just can't be sex, but lets face it, we all need a good shag sometimes and if it's available then we are going to take it.

Nothing beats having fantastic sex with the person that you love......

regarding fuck buddies, i have been there and even though you think there are no emotional strings attached usually there is....i found out the hard way!!!

Anyway i'm in love and having great sex so i am happy :D

fUnKy1

01-Aug-02, 04:38pm

woah...slow down there thegoat!

for starters, not all girls think size matters

and as for your "girls fuck better when they have little respect for the guy" line - I seriously don't know where you got that one from!

waaaaay too much generalising there thegoat, not all girls are the same. Not all guys are the same either....atleast i hope so, it'd be a shame if all guys had the same mentality regarding sex that you do

f1

bumpmek

01-Aug-02, 04:41pm

Originally posted by fUnKy1
for starters, not all girls think size matters

That's true Funky1 and i don't know why the hell not..... i have some g/f's that can handle thumbsize.... (no offence to any male, wasn't your fault it came wrapped like that)..... if it doesn't touch the sides what the hell is the point??? I mayaswell turn dyke!

B Ja

01-Aug-02, 04:42pm

Originally posted by Charley
:lol: :lol: :lol:

People cheat if the sex is bad, they look elsewhere for it. Why stay in a relationship if you are not sexuallay satisfied....Sorry people but as much as you say sex isn't important, it is.....

people still cheat even if the sex is good, trust me.

B Ja

01-Aug-02, 04:47pm

Originally posted by bumpmek

That's true Funky1 and i don't know why the hell not..... i have some g/f's that can handle thumbsize.... (no offence to any male, wasn't your fault it came wrapped like that)..... if it doesn't touch the sides what the hell is the point??? I mayaswell turn dyke!

No offence Bump but I gotta disagree with you on that one.
Have you never heard
it's not the size of the boat, but the motion of the ocean

Dosen't matter how deep he can get it, it's whether he rubs me up the right way.
Sorry if that was a little graphic but it's the only way I could think of to get my point across.

Charley

01-Aug-02, 04:47pm

:lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:

Bump you are one cool chicky!! You have kept me amused all arvo!!

Leasie

01-Aug-02, 04:50pm

Bump.. i dont mind at all that you disagree... that's the whole point of a discussion... we discuss!!! :)

I understand that you need good sex. I am not saying that a relationship can survive without sex but does it have to be amazing-mindblowing-i think i am going to explode' kind of sex all the time? Doesn't that put some pressure on the relationship, that you have to preform to your utmost capabilities at all times?

I love sex but i love being loved more so if i had to choose a fantastically loving relationship with average sex over or an amazing sex life with an average relationship i would definately choose a loving relationship!:)

bumpmek

01-Aug-02, 04:58pm

Being in a long term relationship, as time goes on the sex becomes less a priority, although we still have great sex, we are lacking somewhat.... hehehe busy busy busy schedules, jobs. etc.... but all i meant in all of my posts was for me to connect with a guy i like, i really gotta be into the sex.....

Ahhh example... i met this guy once, we got on like a house on fire, real relationship material, but when it come to the bedroom, i didn't like it.... so i would avoid sex at all costs and he'd be asking for it all the time, hence we clashed.... i ended up bailing as thinking of the sex with him repulsed me, yet outta the bedroom, we were great together.... no what i mean gov?

bumpmek

01-Aug-02, 04:59pm

Originally posted by B Ja

No offence Bump but I gotta disagree with you on that one.
Have you never heard
it's not the size of the boat, but the motion of the ocean

Dosen't matter how deep he can get it, it's whether he rubs me up the right way.
Sorry if that was a little graphic but it's the only way I could think of to get my point across.

Yeppers B Ja heard this one before.... but it still don't convince me... and i been there.... I'm not saying i'm into huge penis... goddamn they can't hurt if they're really big, but it's just gotta be right..... ya know.... ahhh fuck it, call me fussy!!!:lol: :lol:

Leasie

01-Aug-02, 05:04pm

Originally posted by bumpmek
Being in a long term relationship, as time goes on the sex becomes less a priority, although we still have great sex, we are lacking somewhat.... hehehe busy busy busy schedules, jobs. etc.... but all i meant in all of my posts was for me to connect with a guy i like, i really gotta be into the sex.....

Ahhh example... i met this guy once, we got on like a house on fire, real relationship material, but when it come to the bedroom, i didn't like it.... so i would avoid sex at all costs and he'd be asking for it all the time, hence we clashed.... i ended up bailing as thinking of the sex with him repulsed me, yet outta the bedroom, we were great together.... no what i mean gov?

I know what you mean. And i guess my opinion is not coming from a wealth of extensive reaserch ;) and i think that if i was repulsed then yeah, out the door, but i dont have to have mind blowing sex. BUT each to their own and i respect your honesty!! :)

bumpmek

01-Aug-02, 05:07pm

BUMPMEK = Always honest opinons!

That why i get flamed so fuckin much!:lol: :lol: :lol:

Crazybob

01-Aug-02, 05:09pm

Originally posted by cheeky half

Whatever floats ya boat Bobby!!!

Fuckin hillarious.

MrClean

01-Aug-02, 05:11pm

Look people... its ALL good.

I think some of yas need to have a good hard shag.

;)

RBG79

01-Aug-02, 05:19pm

by the statistics up there i am definately in the minority.... have been in great relationships before with no sex, we made out and all that, but she didnt' want sex so i respected her for that.

if anything i view it as an added extra, not an essential part of a relationship, intimacy is almost essential, but not sex.

shoot me down, and everything.... but this is my opinion on the matter :)

Gregama

01-Aug-02, 05:23pm

the worst part about my relationship is the average sex :~(
That and she doesn't communicate. I can see myself getting single pretty damn soon. :|

Funksta

01-Aug-02, 05:31pm

****late addition to thread****

Is it just me or do 90% of girls (broad generalisation... i know!) think that it is up to the guy to 'provide' you with great sex??

It is definately not the way with my current partner, yet with previous partners it has seemed that they have expected the guy to do most of the 'work' so to speak??

opinions girls??

funksta ducks his head as he prepares to get flamed!!!

Griggle

01-Aug-02, 05:40pm

Also in addition to Funksta's post.

Bumpy so let me see if I have this right. You want a guy with a big dick but so too big coz then it hurts. So in otherwise unless the guy is within a couple of centimeters of your required tolerence he's out the door.

What is your view on slightly crooked ones? Is there a required thickness? Or is it all in the length?

I don't really care, this now gives me perfect permission to rate girls on their breast size and shape and not feel like a chauvenist pig.

Mmmmm titties.

Funksta, I totally agree with everything you wrote there.

zionisis

01-Aug-02, 05:45pm

AS soon as you have to start repositioning someone's hands on a regular basis you know you're in trouble!!!

Globule

01-Aug-02, 05:47pm

I believe some people use the notion of good sex to otherwise gloss over their own personal insecurities.

If a girl or a guy is in a relationship and feels anxious about needing to supply their partner with great sex in order to please them then perhaps some time spent improving their own self-esteem would pay off more in the long run than learning how to improve their fellatio/cunnilingus techniques.

In my experience, it is the people that go on about how or how good they have had it or how important sex is and talk it up (to the point where those around them feel inadequate merely by association with that person) that have the greatest insecurities surrounding the act of sex.
Others that take it all in their stride tend to have the healthiest and most fulfilling sexual relationships around as to them it is a natural part of life not to be analysed or graded on a points system but just enjoyed in whatever form it may or may not take.

I enjoy a bit of raunchy banter as much as the next person but I do get a bit bored when you hear people gloating about their sexual escapades, going through the numbers in the Karma Sutra as though they were on some mission to tick all the sexual boxes before they die.

I used to be a victim to my youthful insecurities about whether I was any good at the act, and so I though reading up on all the tricks and tips would help.
It doesn't. If anything it heightens the anxiety you may feel to perform as you place so much importance around your performance.

I know I am painting it all a bit black and white here but I really believe that sex is more enjoyable if you treat like having a drink at the pub with your friends rather than how well you are doing on the shag-o-meter.

Just be happy with yourself and enjoy the experience rather than worrying about who you are or aren't impressing.
Lose those damn expectations from your mind and let it flow baby! Yeah!

FunkStu

01-Aug-02, 05:54pm

Funksta's got a point.

There are too many women who lay there playing starfish rather than climbing on, grabbing hold, giving us bedroom eyes, touching themselves and us without any concern for what the nuns taught them, screaming the house down, grinding like a jackhammer on speed, yelling at us to "fuck me hard, you bastard, pound my pussy, baby" and whispering in our ears exactly where that finger is going next whilst sticking your tongue in our ears. We want animation! We want chicks who want it as much as we do and don't care whether they show it! And when we find them (those of us who have a brain), we stay with them (I am, anyway).

Seriously, how many of you have a clue about the penis? Half of you think the only way of doing a hand job is to pound the poor fella until it's got friction burns (Build up, girls! Don't blame us if we cum quickly after a 30 second pound. The slower the build-up, the better our orgasm). A good portion of you think a blow-job is simply putting it in your mouth (God, gave you a tongue, didn't he?). As for intercourse, you know those muscles that contract around your vagina? Yes, we can feel them. Yes, we like it when you use them. And, yes, you can touch us first and stroke out bodies and play with bits other than the obvious (we like it).

Too many women lay back, worry if their bum looks big, and wonder why they don't cum.

And, sorry, but if it ain't getting hard, it does mean that you ain't turning me on.

Respect to those ladies for whom this doesn't apply. We lurve ya!

MrClean

01-Aug-02, 06:02pm

:lol: :lol: :lol:

lyw funkstu.. :lol:

Phibbler

01-Aug-02, 06:12pm

i would have to support funksta all the way here.

Man alone is not responsible for technique.

If a girl is not recieving good sex, how bout SHE does something different instead of staring at the ceiling, and then complaining later ....

Damn, i want to bitch about poor female technique , but it's rude and ungentlemanly.

Griggle

01-Aug-02, 06:25pm

Hmm a number of previously very vocal females have gone all quiet. :p

Since you pride yourselves on being open and honest what are your opinion on lame-duck female shaggers?

We are constantly hearing about how we should be giving you multiple orgasms and the like. What do you think about making your man happy in the sack?

N4TE

01-Aug-02, 06:44pm

probably one lay in ten, two people gel and go off from the first fuck. The rest of the time, it takes a while before people drop their inhibitions and insecurities and fully get ionto the swing of things. What I want out aof a relationship and what I want from a sexual partner are two totaly different things. If I find someone I'd like to share my time with, I'd be prepared to school 'em up in the gentle art of boot knocking. However I wouldn't try to get a relationship going with someone I have amazing sex with. I mean if it's that good, you know it and they know it and you might hook up a few more times just to get each other off. But it's not going to go anywhere. What really gets me pissed is when you nail a young hotty and she falls in love because you're the best fuck she's ever had. erk. sorry darl, but just cos you had the time of your life doesn't mean you blew my mind too, and you're not gf material, so... seeya.... Know what I mean?

btw if you're not 25 yet, you wouldn't know good sex if it strapped you down and made you cum so hard youcouldn't see for twenty minutes. I like 'em fit, dirty and over 30. (unless I'm roleplaying the dirty old man thing.)

Tristan

01-Aug-02, 06:54pm

Yes, the female population has gone rather silent since Funkstu spoke up.

N4TE, at 21 any sex is good sex;)

Funksta

01-Aug-02, 07:56pm

Good to see some support from the male ITM contingency!

...funkstu, love your work son!

Leasie

01-Aug-02, 09:00pm

Well..... as a female i am not sure exactly what to say. And let me assure you this is a first!!! :lol: :lol:

Now as I said before I am not very experienced. In fact i have only ever slept with my boyfriend and I am proud of that. So sure i probably haven't had amazing sex just for the sake of fucking but that doesn't mean that when i cum it isn't any less amazing for me than your own mind-blowing orgasm. If you find your sex life great then you find it great, as long as you're happy then there isn't any need to compare how amazing yours is compared to anyone elses.

For the amount of people who have voted that sex is very important there seems to be alot of you guys who have alot to complain about. Maybe if so much importance wasn't placed on the 'deed' then you would be more content with your sex lives!

Delerious

02-Aug-02, 12:16am

Funk Stu well spoken!

from the female vantage here I have to agree with everything you say ...

its a two way street boys and girls ... that what makes it fun!

re: all the bitching and moaning about size, shape and form ... again its up to the individuals and how they treat the experience ... it can be goooood fun if you want it to! :p

del :o)

HypoClemmy

02-Aug-02, 12:45am

Sex is part of the relationship not it as a whole....but nowdays it does play a major part in it. In our parents day Sex was a idea that was just being playyed with or so to say.

Well my last G/F and I, had the best sexual relationship i have had so far. Which made us better to each other. ALthough I have had relationships where it was friendship and all the rest and sex came last....

But I love it .... and I am not ashamed of that.

Syk Syd

02-Aug-02, 12:49am

physical expression is vital in a relationship....sex is a selfish thing & has to be that way to be mutually satisfying but u gotta take turns @ being selfish.
cant juz take ya gotta give too or else ya farked!
:p

House of God

02-Aug-02, 12:51am

Well

theres bad sex and then theres BAD SEX.

I think if your in a relationship and you love each other then the sex should be atleast good...if it was good-ok i wouldnt break up with her but if it just never seemed to get any better then i would break up..

You have to be careful that you have given them a fair chance first because it might come down to lack of experience or a really BAD experience in there life..such as sexual abuse or a rape that they find hard to talk about.

Kirk.

gravy

02-Aug-02, 12:58am

bad sex is when you cum blood

Optimus Rhyme

02-Aug-02, 01:07am

Originally posted by bumpmek

BTW, penis size is an issue... i don't care what anyone says.... it matters!

would you agree with what studies have suggested that width is as, if not more important than length?

From all the shit I have read, and i have read alot of shit :) (my gfs girly mags are too tempting sometimes lol... plus in other articles) the more intelligent pieces suggest that size is an issue, but mainly in the case of width, and while length is important too, it doesnt go exponentially, like 10 inches would really have no difference to 9 inches if both used the correct way ;) more that, too short is too short kinda thing :)

just adding to discussion, nothing more :lol:

DAS 18

02-Aug-02, 01:42am

Originally posted by gravy
bad sex is when you cum blood

WTF

bumba

02-Aug-02, 01:45am

oh dear,lmfao :lol:

ok,yes,good sex is important in a relationship,because if u click,its all good! if im not enjoying myself during sex,its usually cos im not comfortable with that person,something feels wrong. to be totally satisfied in a relationship,i think u have to be satisfied with all aspects of it.

now in saying that...different strokes for different folks!(pardon the pun) not everyone is the same in bed,and not everyone likes the same things from their partner,so its just a matter of finding the one that u mesh with(pardon again).

i personally have never had sex for the sake of it,ive had record-breaking droughts,because,for me,if theres no "mesh" in other areas,it doesnt interest me.so of course,for me,the two go hand-in-hand.

ps.have to agree with Bump here...have had one experience with what i would consider small,shocked the hell outta me! it was still good ( "sex is like pizza,even when its bad,its still pretty good" ) but i remember thinking during the act "maybe i should tell him we should just be friends" :lol: :lol: :lol:

bumpmek

02-Aug-02, 08:54am

Bumpy = "can be fussy at times"

I'm entitled to be!!!

Griggle, the females didn't go quiet, we just happened not to be online....!!!

Ben Fisher

02-Aug-02, 09:08am

Originally posted by Griggle

I don't really care, this now gives me perfect permission to rate girls on their breast size and shape and not feel like a chauvenist pig.

Mmmmm titties.

You have a point here. If its ok for women to judge men on what they feel is a neccessity, then its ok to judge a girl on what some males feel is a neccessity.

Difference here is, women are more self concious of this subject (breast size/weight/appearance etc etc) than any guy ever will be....

I'm amused.

bumpmek

02-Aug-02, 09:15am

I've never had a go at any guy who says he wants a blonde/brunette/redhead, skinny bombshell, if that's his style, sweet, doesn't mean he's an asshole cause he's not into larger people..... each to their own....!:p

Charley

02-Aug-02, 09:17am

Okay i would like to comment....

I agree that a women should do as much of the work in the bed as males. I don't think that a women should expect to lay there and have the guy do all the work.

I have never been like that with my boyfriend. I always like to make sure that my boyfriend enjoys it. I actually get more turned on when i can see that he is enjoying it and having a good time.

I hate people that don't let themselves go and are worried about what they are doing. I also hate people that just lay there and you have no idea if they are enjoying what you are doing. Be vocal!! I like to know that you are enjoying yourself.

Ben Fisher

02-Aug-02, 09:36am

Originally posted by bumpmek
I've never had a go at any guy who says he wants a blonde/brunette/redhead, skinny bombshell, if that's his style, sweet, doesn't mean he's an asshole cause he's not into larger people..... each to their own....!:p

So you're trying to tell me that you would not be offended or upset if some totally awsome guy who you really liked you in 'every' aspect turned around and fu_cked you off because your too fat, or you dont please him in the 'breast' department or I dont like your hair....

Bull sh1t. Load of crap.

lush

02-Aug-02, 10:10am

Originally posted by Gregama
the worst part about my relationship is the average sex :~(
That and she doesn't communicate. I can see myself getting single pretty damn soon. :|

This, in addition to that 'woman' thread you started... I'm surprised she hasn't dumped your arse already. What are you hanging on for? Why don't you just tell her what you've told all of us?

She'll be hurt if she finds out you wanted to dump her for ages but couldn't find the guts.

bumpmek

02-Aug-02, 10:20am

Originally posted by Ben Fisher

So you're trying to tell me that you would not be offended or upset if some totally awsome guy who you really liked you in 'every' aspect turned around and fu_cked you off because your too fat, or you dont please him in the 'breast' department or I dont like your hair....

Bull sh1t. Load of crap.

Hey it's happened plenty of times to me... especially in the breast department.... :lol: I don't get offended, more along the lines of "well fuck ya, go find a big titted thing"

And no it's not bullshit... who am i to judge a guy on his tastes.... just the same with me on guys..... if you're fat, you're not my type.... not being shallow, just being HONEST!

Griggle

02-Aug-02, 11:14am

Or is that your shallow and your being honest about it? :P

That actually just reminded me of a friend who dumped his girlfriend when they were 18 because she had small breasts (he is very shallow I tell him so all the time) and now she fucking hot.

I still give him shit about that. ;)

:lol: Must say this thread provided me with more laughs than I thought it would :lol:

MadMike

02-Aug-02, 11:35am

Amen Funkstu, Amen to that.

star

02-Aug-02, 11:40am

Great sex is VERY important to me, and i definately don't think it is just up to the guy, it is up to both partners, and sometimes you just don't click with them, but often the first few times aren't the greatest, as you both want everything to be right and there is a lot of pressure, the THIRD time is when i know if we are going to have a hot relationship or not. Also i think oral sex is important, i have friends whose men don't go down on them, i would think there was something wrong with me if my partner didn't.
Get your Priorities right!!
Star xxoo

lush

02-Aug-02, 11:43am

yeah, what's with guys thinking that blow jobs are gonna happen every time but going down on a chick is some sort of special occasion that you deserve extra praise for?

Leasie

02-Aug-02, 11:44am

Star... i know i a couple of girls who won't give guys head but that they expect that the guy should go down on them. That to me is disrespectful.

I dont see what the problem that some people have with oral sex. I think its great to give and receive. I love seeing the reaction you can cause with the slightest touch or lick or nibble!

I tell my friends that they are 'broken' cuz they won't give oral sex!

bumpmek

02-Aug-02, 11:49am

I don't like guys going down on me! ;D True.....

But i like going down on them..... WEIRD.... very weird i know!!!!

Sphinx

02-Aug-02, 11:56am

yeah, what's with guys thinking that blow jobs are gonna happen every time but going down on a chick is some sort of special occasion that you deserve extra praise for?

I reckon that is totally wrong!!! ( Well for me anyway....)

I LOVE going down on chicks......( Sorry couldn't think of any other way to put it)

Nah....I reckon it's the best and with my tongue ring, it's even better for the female involed......So personally myself, I got no problem with it........:blush: :p (

caseyg

02-Aug-02, 12:01pm

Originally posted by Griggle
Also in addition to Funksta's post.

Bumpy so let me see if I have this right. You want a guy with a big dick but so too big coz then it hurts. So in otherwise unless the guy is within a couple of centimeters of your required tolerence he's out the door.

What is your view on slightly crooked ones? Is there a required thickness? Or is it all in the length?

I don't really care, this now gives me perfect permission to rate girls on their breast size and shape and not feel like a chauvenist pig.

Mmmmm titties.

Funksta, I totally agree with everything you wrote there.

nice one griggle ;)

of course - girls that complain about dick size usually only do so because their pussy isnt very tight - most girls seem to be under the illusion that they are all the same and it is us guys that are the variables in the equation :P

*awaits flames*

bumpmek

02-Aug-02, 12:03pm

BumpmeK gets a petrol bowzer, ignites it and flames caseyg!

Leasie

02-Aug-02, 12:03pm

Bump... I honestly think that you're the first girl i have ever heard say that. Is there any particular reason why?

I love it!!!! :-D :-D :-D Maykes me go a little :tripping:

bumpmek

02-Aug-02, 12:04pm

Can't explain it.... or not something i'll explain over the forums.... the feeling is just weird i reckon, maybe i'm too sensitive.... but ya know a cat's tongue.... ..... :lol: :lol: :lol:

Leasie

02-Aug-02, 12:05pm

Well each to their own.... leaves all the more for me!! ehehehe so i'm not complaining!

FunkStu

02-Aug-02, 12:07pm

One of my exes was the same. Loved giving, didn't even want a piece of receiving.

Not that I was complaining :P

RBG79

02-Aug-02, 12:07pm

ah i know what you are talking about bumpmek, I had blowjob a while back.. and i swear it felt like sandpaper...

since then i just don't like getting them anymore.

bumpmek

02-Aug-02, 12:09pm

Originally posted by RBG79
ah i know what you are talking about bumpmek, I had blowjob a while back.. and i swear it felt like sandpaper...

since then i just don't like getting them anymore.

:lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:

I find it with any tongue though.... all the little tastebuds on them ya know.... i think my body is just too sensitive sometimes... yet i'm sure i could hang from the ceiling and swing off my tits.... no feeling in them at all...... WEIRD!!!

star

02-Aug-02, 12:11pm

Originally posted by Sphinx

Nah....I reckon it's the best and with my tongue ring, it's even better for the female involed......So personally myself, I got no problem with it........:blush: :p (
Firstly i love boys that love going down, because then you want to please them even more by returning the favour. But i think that it is better without the tongue ring, i thought my ex was awesome at oral and then after 2 months he went down on me and he didn't have his tongue ring on... and you don't need to know what happened after that...
but basically he would always take his tongue stud out first from then on xxx

RBG79

02-Aug-02, 12:12pm

hehe,

i could continue with why i think it felt so bad... but i think that'd be giving too much graphical information. so i wont :p

Sphinx

02-Aug-02, 12:27pm

Firstly i love boys that love going down

I feel loved.......hehehe:blush:

I agree with what your saying Star about pleasing her..........I love pleasing women....( not being corny or anything...) but it makes me feel good!!!!!!!!!:p

purplestar

02-Aug-02, 12:33pm

FunkStu... i'm not one of those girls that plays starfish... i get involved 110%. several times when trying to initiate some action recently, my b/f has told me to calm down!!! :lol: :lol: :lol:

so i don't appreciate being lumped in to boring-in-bed category.

griggle... the only reason the chiccy's went quiet is cause we weren't online (like Bump said)... or we were off getting some action! :lol: :lol:

Ben Fisher

02-Aug-02, 12:46pm

Originally posted by bumpmek

Hey it's happened plenty of times to me... especially in the breast department.... :lol: I don't get offended, more along the lines of "well fuck ya, go find a big titted thing"

And no it's not bullshit... who am i to judge a guy on his tastes.... just the same with me on guys..... if you're fat, you're not my type.... not being shallow, just being HONEST!

Fair enough. I am not here to change your opinion, nor will I try or even want to. But I have to mention. I know this girl who is D E S P E R A T E L Y looking for a guy, but she is looking and judging on all the wrong reasons (such as $$, material possessions, Car etc etc). Hence she is still single and every person I have met (guys and girls) dont want a bar of her.

Different in situation I know, but similar in nature. I bet she has missed the boat with numbers of great people, all because she is blindfolded by this criterion everyone must meet.

Each to their own I suppose....

Griggle

02-Aug-02, 12:54pm

RBG you should have told him to shave first. :P

Tristan

02-Aug-02, 12:56pm

Originally posted by bumpmek
yet i'm sure i could hang from the ceiling and swing off my tits
That would be a surefire contender for Australia's Funniest Home Videos :| :D :lol:

RBG79

02-Aug-02, 01:01pm

griggle: i didn't know that had any effect... i will come to you for advice on mansex if it ever presents itself.. (not likely) :p

stuntgorilla

02-Aug-02, 01:28pm

It's obvious that everyone is not going to 'click' the first time they sleep together. There are so many feelings and emotions involved (especially if it is with someone that you really like). As the relationship progresses it is natural that the sex should improve due to increased trust, confidence, communication, etc.

What I find is that as you and your partner work through issues outside the bedroom, the action inside the bedroom also develops.

It would be cool to hear some more feedback on guys with tongue studs. Sphinx and Star have had their opinions....anyone else want to share?

MrClean

02-Aug-02, 02:16pm

Originally posted by caseyg

nice one griggle ;)

of course - girls that complain about dick size usually only do so because their pussy isnt very tight - most girls seem to be under the illusion that they are all the same and it is us guys that are the variables in the equation :P

*awaits flames*

werd up caseyg :P

some of the people round here should really loosen up..

feeble

02-Aug-02, 03:26pm

Or tighten up

MrClean

02-Aug-02, 03:52pm

get a grip feeble.

Syk Syd

02-Aug-02, 04:49pm

response to oral!

syk syd savours a slick slit,sensitive tit,outer thigh,neck & hip!

try sayin that fast under the influence ;D

franko123

30-Oct-10, 08:35am

good sex is essential to any lasting relationship... fact

Dero13

30-Oct-10, 08:47am

good sex is essential to any lasting relationship... fact

x2

The fact that 2 physically healthy people stay together & only have sex rarely is a sign that the relationship is not working & they are to scared to break up to be single & delve into the unknown.

I estimate at least 50% of relationships are like this , probably more.

franko123

30-Oct-10, 09:04am

what are you saying... the only feelings i have for my gf are sexual?

Dero13

30-Oct-10, 09:33am

what are you saying... the only feelings i have for my gf are sexual?

Think you're going to deep.

If your relationship is healthy, your sex life will be healthy too.

When both parties are physically able & healthy & the sex has become less regular over time or 1 partner loses interest the relationship fades & you end up breaking up.

Thats going from my experience & I imagine the majority of others

Kid A

30-Oct-10, 09:38am

good sex is essential to any lasting relationship... fact

If you mean "lasting" as referring to young relationships that last more than 6 months then yeah...but if you mean properly lasting as in marriage/20yrs plus...nah.

beatsta

30-Oct-10, 12:09pm

If you mean "lasting" as referring to young relationships that last more than 6 months then yeah...but if you mean properly lasting as in marriage/20yrs plus...nah.

Have had a few drunken converstions with ladies that have been married for 10-20 years and they dislike their situation due to non existent good sex.Sex is important to a relationship regardless of the duration of the relationship.As well as the obvious good feelings it would be the intimacy as well.

larrisajones

30-Oct-10, 03:16pm

Hmmm ... all people are different.

Sex is critical to a relationship to most of us, and importantly good sex. That said I know at least one couple who are wonderful together and deeply in love but barely ever have sex - they're just not very sexual people.

Each to their own.

patrickbateman

30-Oct-10, 03:43pm

are they fat?

pEAkeR_hAT

30-Oct-10, 03:53pm

Its always good for the guy

hahaha

spaceforest

30-Oct-10, 05:28pm

Think you're going to deep.

Thats what she said :lol:

:|

spaceforest

30-Oct-10, 05:36pm

That said I know at least one couple who are wonderful together and deeply in love but barely ever have sex - they're just not very sexual people.

This is strange to me.... I know a few couples like that and I just don't get it.

Taking sex out of a relationship would take away alot of intimacy and fun for me personally.

Wtf would you have to look forward to at the end of a shit day at work... Deal or No fucking Deal??? :crazy:

wtbwillis

30-Oct-10, 05:52pm

Good sex can't save a bad relationship but a good relationship can save bad sex.

truth right there.....

intimacy is such a big part of good sex, and that is garnered through the mental and emotional strength of a relationship.

spaceforest

30-Oct-10, 06:01pm

intimacy is such a big part of good sex, and that is garnered through the mental and emotional strength of a relationship.

Sometimes it's hard to focus on intimacy when you got your partner bent over the kitchen bench with your hand pushing their face into a bowl of fruit.

But yes I hear you... unless both people are unco hopeless cunts, there is a way to communicate and turn the bad sex into good sex.

TheNextBestThing

30-Oct-10, 06:17pm

spaceforest

30-Oct-10, 06:25pm

tottaly agree with funkstu's rantings, when a girl fails to perform in the sack it infuriates me and i kind of feel insulted because they only put in a half assed effort do i have to do everything myself! To the point where i stop and just walk off. The emotional baggage and built up anxiety from negative experiences can kill the sex drives of men and women although i do believe women are more sensitive to these issues and therefor never completely let themselves go due to many negative sexual experiances. If im in a relationship and she refuses to have sex within a month, im out. She can sort out her issues in her own time. Im a young guy and i've found it hard to find a girl that is willing to let go in the sack. Yes i've slept with one or two and they are considered sluts by there friends, maybe because they ejoy the sex they have so they want more of it? I am no psychologist but i think young girls are too scared to let go because they are worried they will be labelled a slut by their friends which ruins it for everyone involved

For guys that know what they are doing in bed, sex is all about the girl . If the girl isn't getting off and comfortable enough to let go, you're doing it wrong.

You can't expect a girl to just ride you and go nuts if you're not willing/able to make them WANT to do cut loose.

"If im in a relationship and she refuses to have sex within a month, im out. She can sort out her issues in her own time."

^^ that one made me lol.... do you not think it would be a good idea to look at yourself rather than blaming it on her 'issues' if she is unwilling to fuck you for a month :lol:

TheNextBestThing

30-Oct-10, 06:34pm

For guys that know what they are doing in bed, sex is all about the girl . If the girl isn't getting off and comfortable enough to let go, you're doing it wrong.

You can't expect a girl to just ride you and go nuts if you're not willing/able to make them WANT to do cut loose.

"If im in a relationship and she refuses to have sex within a month, im out. She can sort out her issues in her own time."

^^ that one made me lol.... do you not think it would be a good idea to look at yourself rather than blaming it on her 'issues' if she is unwilling to fuck you for a month :lol:

:lol: It's not all about the girl, well atleast for me. I also want to get off call me crazy.

If she is unwilling to fuck me within a month IMHO I think she is wasting her time and mine.

In conclusion I personally wouldn’t have a relationship with a woman if she had too much anxiety about sex, as I’d soon develop my own anxiety about sex.

walkdogz

30-Oct-10, 06:38pm

spaceforest

30-Oct-10, 06:42pm

:lol: It's not all about the girl, well atleast for me. I also want to get off call me crazy.

If she is unwilling to fuck me within a month IMHO I think she is wasting her time and mine.

In conclusion I personally wouldn’t have a relationship with a woman if she had too much anxiety about sex, as I’d soon develop my own anxiety about sex.

If you put more emphasis on blowing your load than you do on giving a girl an orgasm, you don't know how to sex.

If she is unwillingt to fuck you within a month, chances are she isn't exactly comfortable/attracted to you sexually.... and you haven't made any attempt to change that.

In conclusion, lrn2sex and make girl want to sex rather than just expecting them to jump on your dick straight away.

TheNextBestThing

30-Oct-10, 06:43pm

exactly spaceforest, you beat me to it.

latest chick I've been with I spent a good 2 hours warming her up before I nailed her. Needless to say it was the best sex of her life and she didn't know it could be that good... precisely because of the fact tha so many guys are shit****s and just dive right in... I'll play it out for you. We got into my bed and I just stroked her legs and teased her for a couple of seinfeld episodes, I did this until she broke and couldn't handle it anymore then I fingered her for an hour... did that until she said just fuck me already. She then proceeded to have orgasm after orgasm after orgasm for an hour. And this was the first time we screwed. If anythng, the first few times we had sex were the best! all the fun of being new with each other and all the sexual tension releasing like a volcano.

She sounds like a catch! Some people are just hard eggs to crack, I prefer the ones that are easy.

spaceforest

30-Oct-10, 06:44pm

She sounds like a catch! Some people are just hard eggs to crack, i prefer them.

It's not them, it's you.

TheNextBestThing

30-Oct-10, 06:46pm

It's not them, it's you.

:lol: Lend me your girl for the night, we'll see.

spaceforest

30-Oct-10, 06:52pm

:lol: Lend me your girl for the night, we'll see.

Why would I lend one of my girls to you for the night??

So they can lie there emotionless and bored like a blow up doll??

Git farked.

TheNextBestThing

30-Oct-10, 07:04pm

no i am not a rapist.

spaceforest

30-Oct-10, 07:06pm

Never said you were.

TheNextBestThing

30-Oct-10, 07:08pm

:lol: when you were fucking her are you sure she wasn't thinking about george castanza?

spaceforest

30-Oct-10, 07:10pm

:lol: when you were fucking her are you sure she wasn't thinking about george castanza?

Fucking who??

You're not making much sense here champ.

Best to just cut your losses and rent some 'how to sex' DVD's.

TheNextBestThing

30-Oct-10, 07:17pm

sorry i was talking to walkdogz. Im just so sick of getting the 'im not a slut all girls behave like this debriefing.' that is all

pEAkeR_hAT

30-Oct-10, 07:19pm

walkdogz

30-Oct-10, 07:23pm

dude smooshing is when you got a soft and can't get it in

Kellyboop

31-Oct-10, 09:32am

I remember my first girlfriend was always really enthusiastic and pretty game (public car-parks in the day in my car etc.) and whenever we smooshed always used to go on about how she was cumming, and overall made me feel like a champion.

Anyway, like a year later I went to her party (not together) and everyone was blind drunk talking about masterbating or vibrators or something and she blurts out "yeah I'v never cum from sex, not even once", so yeah, pwned

No offense to your ex but what a cunty thing to do! I don't see the point of doing that, you're never going to enjoy sex if you don't communicate to your partner what works for you and vice versa.

Dero13

31-Oct-10, 10:01am

exactly spaceforest, you beat me to it.

latest chick I've been with I spent a good 2 hours warming her up before I nailed her. Needless to say it was the best sex of her life and she didn't know it could be that good... precisely because of the fact tha so many guys are shit****s and just dive right in... I'll play it out for you. We got into my bed and I just stroked her legs and teased her for a couple of seinfeld episodes, I did this until she broke and couldn't handle it anymore then I fingered her for an hour... did that until she said just fuck me already. She then proceeded to have orgasm after orgasm after orgasm for an hour. And this was the first time we screwed. If anythng, the first few times we had sex were the best! all the fun of being new with each other and all the sexual tension releasing like a volcano.

Ohh Romeo Romeo :lol:

Of course discovering a new partner physically for the first few times is the best.

In 2 years time come back & tell us how long your sessions last if you are still with the same girl.

I suspect 1/10th of what you just described & 1/10th of the intensity. My bet is you guys won't even be together as you won'y be able to keep up the same intensity as the first few times & the relationship will dwindle.

Zodiac

31-Oct-10, 10:49am

I suspect 1/10th of what you just described & 1/10th of the intensity. My bet is you guys won't even be together as you won'y be able to keep up the same intensity as the first few times & the relationship will dwindle.

That's why I always tell them it's a race.

Rogan Josh

31-Oct-10, 10:52am

primalstatik

31-Oct-10, 11:17am

I don't like guys going down on me! ;D True.....

But i like going down on them..... WEIRD.... very weird i know!!!!
The perfect relationship.

Kellyboop

31-Oct-10, 11:43am

The perfect relationship.

Too bad you found her 8 years too late :lol:

spaceforest

31-Oct-10, 12:07pm

Kellyboop

31-Oct-10, 12:09pm

If you can't keep sex interesting after 2 years, you're doing it wrong.

Agreed.

Fred_Pillhead

31-Oct-10, 01:44pm

Dero13

31-Oct-10, 01:53pm

If you can't keep sex interesting after 2 years, you're doing it wrong.

:::::::::

A) You're dreamin

B) you're dreamin

C) you're dreamin

D) all of the above

walkdogz

31-Oct-10, 02:31pm

Ohh Romeo Romeo :lol:

Of course discovering a new partner physically for the first few times is the best.

In 2 years time come back & tell us how long your sessions last if you are still with the same girl.

I suspect 1/10th of what you just described & 1/10th of the intensity. My bet is you guys won't even be together as you won'y be able to keep up the same intensity as the first few times & the relationship will dwindle.

That's my point. All these people here are saying the first time is usually not good and it's awkward, I'm saying that's not the case, or doesn't have to be if you set the right foundations ;) and yes I get the whole over time thing in a relationship the intensity lessens. That again however is not always the case, so simple generalisations with sex are pretty naive.

Which Seinfeld episodes were they?

Umm hard pressed to remember, from season 7 though, the best season.

pEAkeR_hAT

31-Oct-10, 04:12pm

I can just imagine someone bangin doggy and then finishing with four pumps going "NO.........SOUP........FOR.......YOU!"

lol

franko123

31-Oct-10, 04:24pm

teasing just makes my chick jsut want to ravage me even more...

you guys are prob doing it wrong

spaceforest

31-Oct-10, 06:33pm

:::::::::

A) You're dreamin

B) you're dreamin

C) you're dreamin

D) all of the above

Na man. I'm not dreaming.

I went out with a girl for 3 years and the sex was always awesome.... and I've been having sex with another girl on and off for the last 7 years and it is literally always good sex.

A) You're doing it wrong

B) You're doing it wrong

C) You're doing it wrong

D) Exactly what I'd expect from a Chelsea fan. Fgt.

walkdogz

31-Oct-10, 06:52pm

totes, girl I was with for 5 years and it was always great... the key is (obviously) sexual attraction, if you're still as sexually attracted to them as ever then there's no reason it should get any worse.

psyv

31-Oct-10, 07:21pm

Epic bump Franko...

Extremely essential. It's not even a question.

wtbwillis

31-Oct-10, 08:41pm

tottaly agree with funkstu's rantings, when a girl fails to perform in the sack it infuriates me and i kind of feel insulted because they only put in a half assed effort do i have to do everything myself! To the point where i stop and just walk off. The emotional baggage and built up anxiety from negative experiences can kill the sex drives of men and women although i do believe women are more sensitive to these issues and therefor never completely let themselves go due to many negative sexual experiances. If im in a relationship and she refuses to have sex within a month, im out. She can sort out her issues in her own time. Im a young guy and i've found it hard to find a girl that is willing to let go in the sack. Yes i've slept with one or two and they are considered sluts by there friends, maybe because they ejoy the sex they have so they want more of it? I am no psychologist but i think young girls are too scared to let go because they are worried they will be labelled a slut by their friends which ruins it for everyone involved

Um, firstly, breathe, secondly paragraphs....

How does a girl "fail to perform in the sack"? Yes she may have issues, but walking away will just increase those issues or feelings of sexual insecurity.

Also, using the word "slut" in relation to a girl who enjoys sex or thinking that younger girls have issues letting go, shows me you are pretty young and naive. Younger girls, who have had less hurt through emotional relationships are actually most likely to be a lot freer and have less baggage.

MAybe the issue is your technique and you think pumping a stiff one in and out produces results?

TheNextBestThing

31-Oct-10, 10:01pm

Um, firstly, breathe, secondly paragraphs....

How does a girl "fail to perform in the sack"? Yes she may have issues, but walking away will just increase those issues or feelings of sexual insecurity.

Also, using the word "slut" in relation to a girl who enjoys sex or thinking that younger girls have issues letting go, shows me you are pretty young and naive. Younger girls, who have had less hurt through emotional relationships are actually most likely to be a lot freer and have less baggage.

MAybe the issue is your technique and you think pumping a stiff one in and out produces results?

Ok imagine a girl that refuses to show you her body, basically won’t even let me touch her boobs or ass, doesn’t know how to blow dick to the point where it hurts, handjobs without lube or saliva, won’t let you go down on her or pretty much look at her vagina for over 10 seconds, and is constantly apologising for not having a ‘good’ body and not having perfectly waxed pubic hair, basically apologising for all her insecurities that women’s magazines portray as important to impress your man. Look I'm not saying it was all her fault, I'm just saying that her mind was on other things constantly asking questions like 'are my tits good enough?' ' Do you think I'm pretty?' and that was a big mood kill for me, you are probably different.

Now I know I didn’t do any favours for her by walking of but if I didn’t im sure it would have been much worse for the both of us. I am still friends with her; I just wouldn’t consider having sex with her again.

Oh yeah, I never call any girls sluts, I just mention that there so-called friends consider the girls sluts.

spaceforest

31-Oct-10, 10:05pm

Ok imagine a girl that refuses to show you her body, basically won’t even let me touch her boobs or ass, doesn’t know how to blow dick to the point where it hurts, handjobs without lube or saliva, won’t let you go down on her or pretty much look at her vagina for over 10 seconds, and is constantly apologising for having a ‘good’ body and not having perfectly waxed pubic hair, basically apologising for all her insecurities that women’s magazines portray as important to impress your man. Look I'm not saying it was all her fault, I'm just saying that her mind was on other things constantly asking questions like 'are my tits good enough?' ' Do you think I'm pretty?' and that was a big mood kill for me, you are probably different.

Now I know I didn’t do any favours for her by walking of but if I didn’t im sure it would have been much worse for the both of us. I am still friends with her; I just wouldn’t consider having sex with her again.

Oh yeah, I never call any girls sluts, I just mention that there so-called friends consider the girls sluts.

Friend, it sounds like she didn't particularly want to to have sex with you.

TheNextBestThing

31-Oct-10, 10:16pm

wtbwillis

31-Oct-10, 10:25pm

Ok imagine a girl that refuses to show you her body, basically won’t even let me touch her boobs or ass, doesn’t know how to blow dick to the point where it hurts, handjobs without lube or saliva, won’t let you go down on her or pretty much look at her vagina for over 10 seconds, and is constantly apologising for not having a ‘good’ body and not having perfectly waxed pubic hair, basically apologising for all her insecurities that women’s magazines portray as important to impress your man. Look I'm not saying it was all her fault, I'm just saying that her mind was on other things constantly asking questions like 'are my tits good enough?' ' Do you think I'm pretty?' and that was a big mood kill for me, you are probably different.

Now I know I didn’t do any favours for her by walking of but if I didn’t im sure it would have been much worse for the both of us. I am still friends with her; I just wouldn’t consider having sex with her again.

Oh yeah, I never call any girls sluts, I just mention that there so-called friends consider the girls sluts.

stop trying to lay 12 years olds?

spaceforest

31-Oct-10, 10:26pm

Thats what I thought so I just walked, Why couldn't she have told me to begin with? Oh I forgot to mention she went running to the bathroom vomited a couple of times, I can usually work around that but not this time.

Fuck knows... maybe you missed her hints?? Maybe she only decided she didn't want to lose her virginity at 14 when she realised she was about to?? :P

esoteric31

01-Nov-10, 12:15am

Good sex? Who cares? We women don't enjoy it anyway.

http://www.guardian.co.uk/media/2010/oct/31/stephen-fry-sex-women-relationships-attitude?CMP=NECNETTXT766

Prat.

Kill Whitey

01-Nov-10, 01:18am

^ Fuckin lol.

I think most girls I've been with have had a higher sex drive than myself , and
Last girl I was seeing regularly would have a cranky fit if we weren't shagging near every minute we were alone.

Kill Whitey

01-Nov-10, 01:21am

Hmmm... no edit option on the ol' iPhone it seems.

esoteric31

01-Nov-10, 01:24am

smorchika

01-Nov-10, 01:28am

I don't know of any girls who don't enjoy sex, myself included. Just because we're not "cruising" for it, knickers round our ankles and chasing anything with a cock, doesn't mean we don't want it, or don't enjoy it when we get it. Strange man, Steven Fry.

why are you out of the kitchen, shouldnt you be baking or something?
you know, doing those things that women "enjoy".
:what:

esoteric31

01-Nov-10, 01:33am

Chillax bitch, I just pulled the roast out of the oven and was about to go to the shed to drop the next bundle out of my uterus. If you have any dirty washing, do it your fucking self. :P

smorchika

01-Nov-10, 01:35am

Chillax bitch, I just pulled the roast out of the oven and was about to go to the shed to drop the next bundle out of my uterus. If you have any dirty washing, do it your fucking self. :P

im scared {:-(
have awakened some kind of crazy sleeping dragon or something...

TheNextBestThing

01-Nov-10, 01:39am

steven fry has bipolar and doesn't take meds

esoteric31

01-Nov-10, 01:44am

im scared {:-(
have awakened some kind of crazy sleeping dragon or something...

Don't ask me, I'm just a girl.

smorchika

01-Nov-10, 01:45am

Don't ask me, I'm just a girl.

hahahahaha?
*chunder*

esoteric31

01-Nov-10, 01:49am

Malibu Stacy!

whoodzzz

01-Nov-10, 02:40pm

Good sex? Who cares? We women don't enjoy it anyway.

http://www.guardian.co.uk/media/2010/oct/31/stephen-fry-sex-women-relationships-attitude?CMP=NECNETTXT766

Prat.

oh really? so I can stop pretending that she made it?

:P

diva_demands

01-Nov-10, 03:17pm

im shocked by stephen frys opinion, i generally think hes spot on with some of his notions and ideas but thats ridiculous!

I have a much higher sex drive than my man, and a lot of other guys ive been with in my time.
and the sex has got to be good in a relationship for it to work, that intimacy is what bonds two people.
whats the point of a relationship without it, you can just be friends and find someone you actually are attracted to

spaceforest

01-Nov-10, 03:38pm

I have a much higher sex drive than my man, and a lot of other guys ive been with in my time.

Come over here and I'll turn that high sex drive into an AVO against planet Earth :rock:

diva_demands

01-Nov-10, 04:08pm

an AVO against planet Earth

fucking lol :lol:

base615

02-Nov-10, 10:55am

Apparently Stephen Fry was misquoted. His actual joke was this:

''If women liked sex as much as men, there would be straight cruising areas in the way there are gay cruising areas. Women would go and hang around in churchyards thinking: 'God, I've got to get my fucking rocks off', or they'd go to Hampstead Heath and meet strangers to shag behind a bush. It doesn't happen. Why? Because the only women you can have sex with like that wish to be paid for it.''

Not really saying women don't enjoy sex.

Dubz

02-Nov-10, 12:05pm

Anyone who says good sex in a relationship doesn't matter, doesn't have good sex, or is crap in bed and feels bad about it.

Funkedub

02-Nov-10, 12:40pm

Its always good for the guy

no ... no it's not.

Dubz

02-Nov-10, 12:50pm

no ... no it's not.

+1

I've had some fucking awful roots in my time. Of course, when you get a good one you treasure her.

SpaceMonkey

02-Nov-10, 05:12pm

Its always good for the guy

hahaha

Anyone who thinks that is either an inept cocksman or fucking a nyphomaniac supermodel. Dubz is bang on, I've had some crap shags and some great wanks, and the great wanks were a fuckload better.

Dero13

02-Nov-10, 09:49pm

Na man. I'm not dreaming.

I went out with a girl for 3 years and the sex was always awesome.... and I've been having sex with another girl on and off for the last 7 years and it is literally always good sex.

A) You're doing it wrong

B) You're doing it wrong

C) You're doing it wrong

D) Exactly what I'd expect from a Chelsea fan. Fgt.

You sound boring & deserve a medal.

7 years with the same girl & still not bored, 5 hours sessions 3 times per day? yeh right :boring:

The girl I lost my virginity I had sex with 56 times in 24 hours. Needless to say when we broke up 2 years later we were havin sex a total of 56 seconds in 56 days