Dumped

[Mini Freak]

Just venting my general unhappiness and upcoming depression after being dumped by my girlfriend........apparently it is ok to date one of my supposedly good friends 1 week after we broke up................:~( :~(

[bumpmek]

Hey Mini Freak, i hope you're ok, breakups are fucked and not nice for anyone! You'll pull through ok! Keep your chin up! ;)

[Dbauch]

oh no! thats terrible :(

Obviously she is not worth it anyway if after only a week she is dating one of your mates.

Chin up and soldier on :) I am sure you will soon find that you are better off without her.

Enjoy being single!

[Mini Freak]

Thanks girls........i am obviously shameless in looking for some sympathy here........i just hate the double blow at once and the fact that my "freind" didn't think twice about going out with her......oh well

[phunkyp]

dbauch is right, you will be much better off without her....

you will soon realise that...in the meantime, its time to sleep your way through all her friends/sisters/cousins/mother, trust me, this is theraputic :lol:

[lush]

How long were you with her for? That's an important factor in whether your friend is being appropriate or not.

[Mini Freak]

two years.......long eanough to know better really..........i feel like a bit of a fool, dreading the weekend now.......i know i will get over it, but i really did love this girl and well..i will stop being a loser and whining....

[B Ja]

Please tell me you're not still friends with this guy.

[Mini Freak]

hmmm i did exchange some harsh words with him on the phone and he said that it was "fair game"...that since i wasn't dating her anymore, anyone else could....and that he has done nothing wrong because it wasn't behind my back......somehow i don't see it that way....
anyway thanks for letting me vent........i am sure everyone goes through this kind of crap....it just doesn't feel very nice :~(

[lush]

fair game, my arse. Maybe technically, but you expect your friends to be more sensitive than that. Friendship is not about black and white rules, it's about being excellent to each other, like Bill and Ted.

[Mellow D]

That's just wrong. A friend is someone who wouldn't do anything to hurt you - he would have to know that dating your girl just after a week of breaking up would be painful.

Cheer up Mini.... my boy moved out and left me for his mum

;)

[central_smurf]

the loyalty should be with you not your ex.

id be mre pissed off at the friend

hope you are ok though :)

[jayjay]

plan some sweet sweet revenge.

by the sounds of it tho they deserve eachother. u obviously have good morals and im sure the next girl that u date will appreciate that.

[Delerious]

Expecting friends to act a certain way only ends in tears ...

Sometimes you can't help attractions and just have to be man enough to deal with it ... sure it hurts like hell but thats just life!

Sounds harsh and you have my sympathy ... but people are people and do what suits them best ... sometimes there are casualties.

I wish you a speedy recovery ... it sucks feeling awful!

del

[Esteban]

Fair game? I think not.

How good was this friend? There's an unspoken rule in my circle of (closer) friends and you just don't go there. Now you have to question how long shit was going on for before you broke up.

I'd forget both of them.

[Chick]

Originally posted by lush
fair game, my arse. Maybe technically, but you expect your friends to be more sensitive than that. Friendship is not about black and white rules, it's about being excellent to each other, like Bill and Ted.

Exactly!
It would be fair game if you weren't hurt by the situation. Friends don't do things to hurt each other. You're upset, so what your fiend is doing is wrong and absolutely not fair game.

[Chick]

I meant "friend" not "fiend" although fiend is kinda appropriate too.

Hope you meet someone nice soon.

[Sabishii]

Just wanted to point out that he should be the first one to come give you the shoulder to cry on, not planning his next date with your ex.

It sux, but believe me being single in the big city is a lotta fun and you will find someone with a few more morals! In the meantime, tell your friend to go fcuk himself... In short he's not a true friend and not worth your time.

(hugz)

[likeatiger]

That is pretty fucked up, there is no way your ex is fair game, I would be way more pissed off with the friend, how long was he planning to make his move, or was he already making moves behind your back.

Don't give either of them the satisfaction of seeing you down

[DJ Fusion]

1 week after my arse! $10 says they were doing it before you broke up.

[Mini Freak]

i know.....maybe i am just a bit weak when it comes to confrontations and the like........and now starting to remember the "signs" and why didn't i see it coming etc etc...

i'll be ok...it's just that with any break-up...anticipating the emotional pain, and knowing that it will take me ages to get over her...........even when you are male....(love is not jsut a word for males, or some of them)......

[giraffe]

Originally posted by likeatiger
That is pretty fucked up, there is no way your ex is fair game, I would be way more pissed off with the friend, how long was he planning to make his move, or was he already making moves behind your back.

Don't give either of them the satisfaction of seeing you down

Very true words that - don't let them see how much it hurts

Its time to move on to greener pastures for you give yourself time to heal and I'm sure in a wee while you'll look back at now and go why did I ever care about it - I am in such a better place now etc

:D lots of smiles, get together with some friends and have a good laugh, should put those two way out of your mind

[SpaceMonkey]

1 Week later after 2 years?! That is beyond off limits, that is pure fucking evil. Shame on BOTH of them. I'd never speak to either again. I'd also shit in both their mailboxes. Hope they both get herpes.

[mr_wryt]

I can relate...I had a mate start seeing an ex a week later...and I ended up being the last person to kno...about a fortnight after that...

so yeah it sux...

but raises the question...if as a mate you're the shoulder to cry on...how long before you can go after the ex...if at all...?

And from the ex's point of view...how long after you dump someone til you can start seeing someone else without being totALly heartless...or as the dumper can u technicALly start dating the next day...?

I have my thoughts, but just want to see what others think...

{:-( :( :?

[lincoln]

fair point, things were probably going on well and trully before the end of the relationship...but that's what happens, doesn't it? A lot of people make sure they have something to fall back to when they know their relationship is about to end. It's very rarely a surprise that a relationship ends...to one of the parties at least.

In the end, you can only be true to yourself. You can't control what others do, or how they act. Be strong, have confidence in yourself and continue looking after numero uno! Yes, a good mate shouldn't do the above, but, nothing you can do, don't give it too much thought, it's really not worth it. I know that's probably not what you want to hear, I know I always hated when people said "she wasn't worth it" "you're better off"...but it is true, just takes time to realise that it's true.

Take Care, Lincoln

[SpaceMonkey]

Originally posted by Delerious
Expecting friends to act a certain way only ends in tears ...

Sometimes you can't help attractions and just have to be man enough to deal with it ... sure it hurts like hell but thats just life!

del

Nah, can't agree with that. They could at least have waited more that a week after the breakup to get together. You should be able to rely on freind to act a certain way and respect your feelings. What sort of freinds are they otherwise? You're better off without freinds like that.

[Jiminy]

My sister decided to bring my boyfriend of two years home a week after we had broken up. That hurt. Just think how much fun summer will be :) Little consolation I know.

[lincoln]

Originally posted by mr_wryt
I can relate...I had a mate start seeing an ex a week later...and I ended up being the last person to kno...about a fortnight after that...

so yeah it sux...

but raises the question...if as a mate you're the shoulder to cry on...how long before you can go after the ex...if at all...?

And from the ex's point of view...how long after you dump someone til you can start seeing someone else without being totALly heartless...or as the dumper can u technicALly start dating the next day...?

I have my thoughts, but just want to see what others think...

{:-( :( :?

Never, you can never ever touch the ex of a mate. Unless the mate has a new partner and has fallen in love with that new partner and is WELL AND TRULLY over her. Only then can you even BEGIN to think about the ex. Up until then, you should have next to no communication with the ex. Those are the rules.

[SpaceMonkey]

Originally posted by lincoln


Never, you can never ever touch the ex of a mate. Unless the mate has a new partner and has fallen in love with that new partner and is WELL AND TRULLY over her. Only then can you even BEGIN to think about the ex. Up until then, you should have next to no communication with the ex. Those are the rules.
WORD.

[B Ja]

Originally posted by DJ Fusion
1 week after my arse! $10 says they were doing it before you broke up.

I was thinking the same thing

[Gregama]

Originally posted by Esteban
Fair game? I think not.

How good was this friend? There's an unspoken rule in my circle of (closer) friends and you just don't go there. Now you have to question how long shit was going on for before you broke up.

I'd forget both of them.

Respect to Esteban.

Forgot the hoe, and he's not a real friend. Your real friends help you pick up the pieces, not shag the skank. At least take the compliment that he's low enough to take your sloppy seconds ;)

If my friends did that to me, I'd be opening a can of whoopass on his lameass.

[Griggle]

Yeah, sounds like it. I don't think anyone will be game to bet money against you.

If any of my mates wanted to go out with any of my ex's, the only reason I would try and stop them is I like my friends too much to let them get shackled to a soul-destroying psycho-hose-beast.

As to how long after the relationship, if your actually friends with someone it's usually pretty easy to know what their feelings are, once they get over the shock and denial phase, then it's ok as long as your open about it.

[rabbler]

i know exactly where you're at mate. it sux. breaking up is the cause of the worst emotional pain i have ever known.

here's some advice. sourround yourself with positive people. try not to mope or get bitter, it gets you nowhere. the best thing about breaking up for me, is that i re-evaluate everything in my life. do a spring clean. out with the old, in with the new. focus on yourself. what better time eh?!

good luck!

[sofu]

She wanted something the friend had but you didn't. No point in getting mad at everyone else.

[SpaceMonkey]

Originally posted by sofu
She wanted something the friend had but you didn't. No point in getting mad at everyone else.

Precisely the sort of person you don't need as a friend right now.

[Tristan]

Originally posted by Jiminy
My sister decided to bring my boyfriend of two years home a week after we had broken up. Thats just fkn WRONG

[rabbler]

Originally posted by sofu
She wanted something the friend had but you didn't. No point in getting mad at everyone else.
:lol::lol:

[SpaceMonkey]

Originally posted by Tristan
Thats just fkn WRONG

True. And I'll bet the ex though he was such the man now that he'd got the double.

[Mini Freak]

Originally posted by sofu
She wanted something the friend had but you didn't. No point in getting mad at everyone else.

i was never an advocate of the "it's not the size,it's how you use it"..gang..so that couldn't have been the problem.....thanks for making me laugh sofu....and thanks guys

i'll try and be a misery-less guts for a while :)

[Lambretta]

I think Del's got a point on this one.
Sometimes the attraction is there and you act on it.

However the decent thing would have been to wait a longer period of time and to ease into the relationship.

Maybe they should have just "hung out" together a lot. Then the friend, after a period of a few weeks could have confided in Mini-Freak to say that "Hey, I have really deep feelings for this person, but I wanted to check with you first if you have objections to my dating them seeing as you relationship failed etc etc"

This way, the friendship could be maintained seeing as they did the honourable thing first instead of stabbing you the back.

[FunkStu]

One of the Ten Commandments of Male Mateship is:

You can never ever ever date your mates' ex-girlfriend or sister at anytime unless the mate has told you, without having been asked, that he considers said ex or sister to be open game.

Failure to adhere to this rule will result in the ostracisation of said individual from circle of mateship and labelling as "that wanker".

Your mate is the lowest of the low. Hate to add flame to a shitty fire but the speed at which these two are together would usually suggest this has "bond" not developed in the last week alone.

Nail the fucker to the wall.

[littleblonde]

1 word.... rebound. I would place money on the relationship not lasting. I would also question your friends loyalty. It is one thing to go out with someone months/years after a friend has broken up with them, sometimes it doesn't matter, and there are some people with whom it will never be ok with you (I tend to put long term serious relationships into this category, actually, I would NEVER date someone one of my friends had feelings about, it just isn't worth it)

Sorry to hear about it though Mini Freak, seems there are a few people out there who are having a rough time relationship wise. Breaking up with someone after a long term (I call over 16months long term) relationship is really hard and there is a major adjusment period :( Make sure you surround yourself with friends and keep yourself busy, you will find it easier to adjust if you have a good support network.

Be ready to miss the little things though, the companionship, the loss of your 'best friend' as well as your girlfriend, and having no one to do nothing with. You really learn to appreciate your friends more, especially if they have partners and they still put aside the time to keep you involved in their activities.

Good luck mate :)

[littleblonde]

Just read Stu's response....

couldn't agree more.

[mr_wryt]

I'm with Lamb...

When it happened to me, one of the things that hurt as much as the betrayAL was the fact it was hidden from me for so long...

If he'd at least told me he was interested before he acted it might've eased the blow...

Funkstu...it's too bad not everyone adheres to the mALe mateship rules...so in the end the good guys get fukt on by the guys who ignore the commandments...

Point is...shit happens...and there will ALways be bastards in this world...best thing is I won't have regrets or bad vibes because of my actions...

:( :meh: ;)

[dandharma]

FunkStu has got it right, there are definitely rules and boundaries to what a mate can do, step out of those boundaries and you are technically no longer a mate!!

every one gets hurt buddy,
my advice is to let it hurt and not bottle it up!

I see some of my mates who get dumped act as if they don't care and bottle it up, I say fuck that, your best bet is to learn from it and help you to grow,

the same thing happened to me 12 months ago, and I was really angry, had a lot of rebounding to do and get out of my system.

my advice is to go and rebound!!

[Sherbos]

There is a certain code of ethics when dealing with a friend's girlfriend. Your mate's a dipshit - forget him, he's not worth it.

Your ex is just as much of a dipshit. Same goes.

It sucks more than anything when someone you trust really lets you down, but life's short and you have to get on with things.

[Jiminy]

Originally posted by SpaceMonkey
True. And I'll bet the ex though he was such the man now that he'd got the double.

Thanks for that SpaceMonkey. I had never thought of it that way before :p Funny thing is I am still good friends with him.

Time heals all wounds, a hell of a lot of time in some cases :)

[The Full Bench]

What do your group of friends think about this?
I hope the other guy gets iced.

[SpaceMonkey]

Originally posted by Jiminy


Thanks for that SpaceMonkey. I had never thought of it that way before :p Funny thing is I am still good friends with him.

Time heals all wounds, a hell of a lot of time in some cases :)

Just remind him of the KFC add with Barnesy in it next time you see him... -"nothing beats the original!"

[Jiminy]

Oh nice. She is older. Does that make her the original? :lol:

[reverber8]

Na just remind him or tell him of all the dirty shit you did when you where coming down with his now partner (and if not make it up)

[SpaceMonkey]

Originally posted by Jiminy
Oh nice. She is older. Does that make her the original? :lol:

Nope, from his point of view you were first, so you're the original.

And I've gotta say thats pretty sad from an older sister! Usually the sort of thing you'd expect from a younger sibling.

[Griggle]

I've been avoiding using this quote for the last hour, but can't hold it back now. It has to be posted.

"I would like to be able to sympathise with you, but I can't. I've never been dumped." Hal, Malcom in the Middle

Sorry I couldn't resist. I actually think Funkstu's right. A friend would have at least held back a bit till you wern't so broken up over it, even if they were madly in love with each other. And they should have talked to you first.

Neither of them are your friends.

He's fucked. So is she.

[Ku Klux Clam]

Maybe she is going out with someone who can choose a better screen name :lol: :lol:

You'll be fine mini freak..........i am sure you can find yourself a freaky chick worthy of you soon ;)

[littleblonde]

Along the lines of the bond potentially developing beforehand, be careful what tirade you decide to go on. Although you think nothing can can hurt you more now, if you go around with accusations you may be unfortunate enough to uncover something you don't want to know about...

Some things are better unkown.

[cheeky half]

:lol: :lol: :lol: Have to say I agree with Ku on this one! Maybe after 2 years of being known as "Mini Freaks chick" she simply had enough, your "friends" screen name wouldn't be RogerAllNite by any chance?:P

[Cowohcow]

life is a big fat bitch then u kill her

[Natashja]

Perhaps my vindictive streak is showing, but I’d make them pay.

Fuck them both. That’s right - have a threesome with your mate and your ex and fuck them senseless. After you’ve done the deed and your little menage et trois is lying there smoking the inevitable post coital cigarette, tell them you have syphilis and chlamydia and it is so far gone that it’s untreatable and the disease is so infectious that after your threesome you’d be surprised if they didn’t have it too. Then leave and never speak to either one again.

[mr_wryt]

I don't think I'd find that satisfying at all...would just reinforce the hurt of the two of them together...

I'd only enjoy it if they actuALly got "syphilis and chlamydia" etc...

And that would mean I'd have to have it in the first place...not a fun prospect...

However, if you happen to have some sort of venereAL disease, may as well use it..

:meh: :? ;)

[mitch]

:lol: :lol: at Natashja. Good call.

But I'd have to agree with Stu and Esteban. That's pretty screwed up - no friend should do that to another. They certainly wouldn't get away with it if they hung out with my crowd.

[petiepoo_80]

I had my best friend go for my little sister's very recent ex and although it hurt her initially, the people who have lost out most is the 2 of them, they're still together but they've only got each other as they managed to isolate themselves from all our friends in the process. We were all accepting of the fact that they had an attraction & that there is nothing they could do about it but the way the went about it openly disrespected my sister & showed no regard whatsoever for her feelings! And that's just fucked! She (best friend) also decided that we shouldn't be friends anymore and in essence terminated our 5 year friendship over a guy she had known for 3 weeks without even consulting me.

While I think you can't help attraction, friend's ex's are messy and I just don't think I could do that to someone, not unless I knew that she was over him, no way I could do it if she was still into him, guess it's just called respect & loyalty for my friends, and I would expect the same from them.

Well that's my 2 cents worth anyway....

[Mini Freak]

Originally posted by cheeky half
:lol: :lol: :lol: Have to say I agree with Ku on this one! Maybe after 2 years of being known as "Mini Freaks chick" she simply had enough, your "friends" screen name wouldn't be RogerAllNite by any chance?:P

I still fail to see where you are coming from cheeky half.......i am sure no one has broken up with you over anything...much less your performance in the bedrom.....

and by the way....ok maybe i wasn't the best thing since sliced bed in bed.....but i treated her well and tried to be there and do all the right things...........if i turn into a cynic bastard i am sure to get a lot more girls aren't i??

bah

[SpaceMonkey]

Originally posted by Mini Freak


I still fail to see where you are coming from cheeky half.......i am sure no one has broken up with you over anything...much less your performance in the bedrom.....

and by the way....ok maybe i wasn't the best thing since sliced bed in bed.....but i treated her well and tried to be there and do all the right things...........if i turn into a cynic bastard i am sure to get a lot more girls aren't i??

bah

Mini Freak, when will you learn? Women dont want decent, sincere guys who are "there for them". From now on treat every woman who shows interest in you with barely disguised contempt, don't return their phone calls, have sex with their freinds for no particular reason than you could, and trust me, you'll be beating them off with sticks in no time......

[mr_wryt]

ah s#!t...knew I was doin something wrong...

you've got to beat them with a stick, huh...right...got it...

:meh: :? :p

[Chick]

Girls do like nice guys who treat them properly. The problem is not whether or not you are nice, the problem is that the girl is clearly not nice.

[digitalboy2020]

Originally posted by littleblonde
(I call over 16months long term)

I don't think you can even really put a time frame on it. I've broken up from 8 month relationships that have been incredibly close nontheless. It's still hard. Just remember to have fun while you're finding that next special person.

[cheeky half]

Originally posted by Mini Freak


I still fail to see where you are coming from cheeky half.......i am sure no one has broken up with you over anything...much less your performance in the bedrom.....

and by the way....ok maybe i wasn't the best thing since sliced bed in bed.....but i treated her well and tried to be there and do all the right things...........if i turn into a cynic bastard i am sure to get a lot more girls aren't i??

bah

I've been dumped more times than a dodgy curry:P

Oh... another thought, maybe she couldn't decipher your valentines cards?

[zionisis]

It's pretty bizarre what people will do when it comes to personal gain.

I HAD this friend who I thought was a good mate. He broke up with his g/f who he was living with and needed a place to stay. So I helped him move all his stuff and gave him a bed on the living room floor. He proceeded to eat and sleep in my house for about 4 months without ever contributing to bills. We litterally had to pour him out the door in the end.

Over the next few months he borrowed money from me to the point that he owed me about $1500. He then proceeds to basically lie to me for 6 months in an attmept not to pay me back. I eventually got so sick of it I had to ask another mutual friend to collect the $$ for me. And this is a guy with a well paying job.

I also found out that he failed to pay rent at his new flat, which he shared with a mutual mate of ours and another guy. He also used one of the guys credit cards to pay the foxtel bill which he was responsible.

I'm finding out stacks of dodgy shit that this guy has done - it's quite unbelievable. He comes across as a really top bloke - BUT!!!

the moral - you can't always trust or rely on those people who you think would have your best interests at heart.

Z.

[Chick]

that sucks. some people seem to lack basic human decency.

[Spitchen]

I agree with Funkstu and the rest of you on this. You don't do the dirty on a mate a week after breaking up. Unwritten rules on that.

But, you should probably say what you've got to say to yer mate, give him a piece of your mind and then let it go as much as you can. You don't wanna be carrying around negative shite for too long. The only person who then gets fooked is you!

Anyway, you sound like a pretty cool person, you'll find someone else. :)

[Esteban]

do u have any photo's of her in - ahem- incriminating circumstances?

Joking, you don't sound like the vengeful type so just live well (that's the best revenge anyway) and keep busy. Talk about it with a friend and get it out of your system then move on but don't let it make you bitter.

[Raverbunny]

Ok, here's a bit of a dumped story from your fave ITM virgin!! :p i was with a guy for a year and a half, broke up a few times, had a beautiful relationship. he kissed another chickee, and now i find i am still running back to him. we are still sleeping with each other etc and i'm scared of the day we will finally stop cos i think im still in love with him!!! should i keep running back or not guys????????:meh:

[Esteban]

Once you break up you should stop fucking each other (well maybe one for the road :p). Life is simpler when you have a definite end to the relationship, besides that, how hurt are you going to be if he starts seeing someone else now? I say get over him, find a new man.

God i should be in bed...

[Jiminy]

I should also be in bed but Raverbunny. BAD SITUATION. Bad idea. Ex boyfriends are never good as fuck buddies. Fuck buddies only work if you are completely unattached. I've been there and it just ends in tears. :~(

[SpaceMonkey]

Originally posted by Jiminy
I should also be in bed but Raverbunny. BAD SITUATION. Bad idea. Ex boyfriends are never good as fuck buddies. Fuck buddies only work if you are completely unattached. I've been there and it just ends in tears. :~(

In my experience the ONLY people who work as fuck buddies are people you can't have a relationship with due to circumstances such a distance etc (ie you live in different cities but get together and root each others brains out every few weeks). Every time I've tried to have that sort of arrangement with someone who I've seen quite regularly you seem to end up developing feelings for each other whether or not you intended to in the first place. Then one of you meets somebody "special" and the other ends up feeling hurt and jealous.
If you need regular sex, get a new boyfriend. Otherwise stick to one-nighters, or just have a wank.

[feeble]

Agreed- exes make BAD fuck buddies. It's soooo easy, and sooooo tempting... but it gets very very messy.

(fuck it's hard habit to break though)

Too much residue emotional shit comes into play... it's not worth it. Move on and up.

[Bella]

friend's ex's are SOOOOOO off limits! no matter how long it's been...

bella :)

[SpaceMonkey]

Originally posted by Bella
friend's ex's are SOOOOOO off limits! no matter how long it's been...

bella :)

Unless the friend has explicitly stated its ok for you to go there....

[Bella]

sorry... but if your friend gives you permission to go out with their ex then THEY have problems...

bella :)

[feeble]

Personally I wouldn't wish any of my exes on my friends- my friends deserve better than that.

[Mini Freak]

I can't f**ing believe this......***** rang me up this morning and asked me if i wouldn't mind not going to a birthday party tonight, because her and my "mate" are going and it would be awakaward!!!!!

i hung up on her...that is just ridiculous........i may have been too nice, but i am not a puppet

grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr

[Esteban]

fine line between love and hate...

don't worry, people at the party will have the same thoughts as people here, she's a tart and he's a twat.

[The Full Bench]

thats so shit!
i just dont know what to say to that.
obviously they deserve each other.

[SpaceMonkey]

Hey, I'm not saying I'd wish any of my exes on anyone but if one of my my mates for some reason wanted to start seeing one of them I'd tell him to go ahead! (and question his sanity!)

[Griggle]

Spacemonkey you and I are the same there. I may ahve already said that.

Mini Freak, just tell her you have no problems with the situation but if she feels uncomfortable about the situation, maybe she shouldn't turn up.

If they do turn up, just have a heap of fun. Happiness is the best revenge.

[The Full Bench]

Originally posted by Griggle


If they do turn up, just have a heap of fun. Happiness is the best revenge.

Exactly.
If she has a problem with meeting you there, maybe she should be the one to miss out on the party. She'll just get constantly bagged for being a friend-swapping slut anyway.

[giraffe]

Originally posted by Mini Freak
I can't f**ing believe this......***** rang me up this morning and asked me if i wouldn't mind not going to a birthday party tonight, because her and my "mate" are going and it would be awakaward!!!!!

i hung up on her...that is just ridiculous........i may have been too nice, but i am not a puppet

grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr

Are you going to go MF?

Far out she sucks at least you are going to have that great thing when you break up with someone the "hate" quality - it does help if you can't stand someone and the way they are acting to hate them and move on - I don't generally condone this sort of thing but sometimes it really helps

Anyway the matter at hand you should go and just act as normal as possible (if you like the person whose party it is) - do not let her take control of this situation

[SpaceMonkey]

Originally posted by Mini Freak
I can't f**ing believe this......***** rang me up this morning and asked me if i wouldn't mind not going to a birthday party tonight, because her and my "mate" are going and it would be awakaward!!!!!

i hung up on her...that is just ridiculous........i may have been too nice, but i am not a puppet

grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr

What the fuck?! Turn up. If she brings up the issue say to her "if you feel awkward, fuck off then." She created the situation, her problem, not yours. Oh and as tempting as it is don't get pissed and act like a prick towards them, if you keep your dignity everybody else should quickly realise what arseholes they are, and make them feel so uncomfortable that they slink off in embarassment with their tails between their legs.

[giraffe]

Precisely what Space Monkey said if you can pull that off Mini Freak you will so have the upper hand

Far out this girl sounds like a nasty piece of work - some people are so frickin callous its ridiculous

Mini Freak I hope you find the best girl in the world when you're ready to meet someone new and it cancels out this little tart

[Bella]

mini freak u got any hot lookin girlie friends? if so rock up with one of them, and have a wikked time... go up to them & go "it was so nice of you to come, considering the fact that i heard <insert friends name> has herpes that have just flared up"... it must be uncomfortable for you mate eh? then walk off, sexy chikka on arm...

that'll learn em :)

bella :)

[Lambretta]

Folks, re herpes.

If you've ever had a cold sore, you've got herpes.

There's a cream for it, and it's not painful, it just looks a bit ugly and your chances of being kissed diminishes.

There are far worse diseases to wish upon these people :p

[littleblonde]

What a f.ucking bitch. Tell them both to go to hell.

If you want to go to the party, go to the party. If anything, circumstances considered, SHE should be the one standing back and not going.

[Reggie_Mental]

I've lost my mates handbook and associated rules.

What's the go on shagging yer best mates Mother again???

[Mini Freak]

i am definitely going.........she's sent me an sms telling me various unmentionable things.....(the nerve!!!!!).........i can't believe that she is still the one turning out mean,after what has happened.........soap opera life at the moment it seems for me...thanks for all the advice guys, i appreciate it

[weazelsbuddy]

MF!

your "mate" is not a mate... to break the unwritten code and start seeing your ex of a WEEK, after you were together 2 YEARS.... nup that is no friend.

Go to the party, if it is gonna be awkward, it's gonna be awkwardfor THEM, as all of your crew are gonna take one look at the sitch and realise that the c***s are not the kind of people that can be trusted, and respected for their loyalty.
Not much consolation when your inside are being wrung out and you feel as though a slow and painful death would be preferable...

but hang in there, it DOES get better. I PROMISE. My first love dumped my ass in a seriously unceremonious way earlier this year, and hey, although I still sting, I have met someone who treats me better, f***ks me better, and appreciates me more...

the universe is one strange mofo..

[Esteban]

re herpes: type 1, I think many people have - the cold sore.
Type 2 is genital herpes, that's the one u don't want. The fun game to play is pick who has herpes type 2 when you're in a crowd as 12.5% of Australians have it :-0

[Raverbunny]

MF, just remember tyhat you are better than all this, and you are the one that is going to learn from it and come out above this shit ok!! You are better than this, and i know i've been there babe!:) Don't ever let yourself feel like shite cos uno she's the one that fucked up, i mean with your so called "mate" after a week...she is just tragic matey.

[Natashja]

MF, go to the party and don't just turn up with one gorgeous woman on your arm, but six of them. Get your ITM girlfriends to come with you if you have to and don't even bother paying one moment of attention to your ex or your butthead mate.

Better still, does the ex or the mate have a sister? Turn up with her or even both sisters.


hahahahaha.

Seriously, go alone and look abundantly happy. Don't get shit-faced, don't get munted be shiny-eyed and happy. Shake your mate's hand and kiss her on the cheek. Fuck with their heads a little - just think of them as play-things you can amuse yourself with.

[mr_wryt]

too bad you're in SA...

by the sounds of things if you were in some of the other capitAL cities you'd have a posse of volunteers ready to turn up and ensure your "mate" and ex felt like the shite they are...

looks like we all share a common trait of being fukt on by love at some stage...and heartening to see there's still some decent people out there after you've experienced something like this from the dregs of society...especiALly when those dregs were people you trusted...

MF...good luck...take heart from the fact you're better than them and better off without them...don't ALlow them to affect you anymore as they aren't worth it...and make sure that the situation remains their problem and doesn't become an issue for the host of the party...

Oh...and remember...you're now free to do as you choose...so go get em tiger!!! Who knows...it might be perfect timing and you'll meet the woman of your dreams tonight!

:) :) :)

[Naked]

Mini Freak, since you're in SA, why not rock up to the iTM Party tonight? Garranteed to be lots of fun :) I hope things work out mate, I've been there before, and its not pleasant, but think of Karma, and it'll kick them in the rear sooner then you think :)

[phatman]

Originally posted by lush
Friendship is not about black and white rules, it's about being excellent to each other, like Bill and Ted.

Lush, that is the coolest and truest thing I have seen posted here in a long time. You are a fookin' genuis and you should pat yourself on the back for that effort.

Bill and Ted rock.

Mini Freak fuck your ex and fuck your friend (not literally of course). These people mean nothing in the grand scheme of things, their only purpose is to make you realise how good you have it with real friends and the right girl. Be a man-whore for a while.

[funkstepper]

i toootally agreee with phatman here. your friend is dick and aint worth the bacteria that makes him wat he is X( . friends like that you dont need buddy. dont worry looks like everyone here has your back :) .

anyways boiyo cheer up :)

and as for your friend i hope his 3rd leg falls off XD

[Lord Rog]

The risks we take to find our own
hold us back when love is gone
but don't despair mini
through this sorrow
seeds of self are sown
so I say
care for your afflication
and show the world
that you can love again.