Searching for the one...

[oogie]

hey i just wanted to get an idea of who out there believes in destinity, soul mates that one special person out there just for u!!
I would love to beleive in that ideal and would love to meet a young lady that would make me feel that way.

If u have someone that u feel that way about never take for granted who they are or what they give u, i did and i lost that special person, so maybe she was not the one for me, but i would love to have that feeling again..:blush:

[GeSter]

dunno..
life is like a box of chocolates you never know what your gonna get ;)

but check this thread out
Destiny (http://www.inthemix.com.au/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=33389&highlight=destiny)

[Fairy]

What is ment to be, will be :)

[mr herman]

Some people get lucky, some don't

[Tristan]

I certainly don't agree with "the one" theory spouted on evry second televsion show. Like if there is only one person out there for you who's to say they don't live in rural brazil or somewhere more remote. I think there are a number of people who we are compatible with some more than others. it's just a matter of finding the most suitable. Doesn't mean it will work out though.

[LightningChyld]

I think that there isn't a person "The ONE" per sey, as they could be married or taken by someone else, in another country or you could just never meet them fullstop. (God I'm a ray of sunshine aren't I!)

However, I believe that if you find someone who you can talk to, be comfortable with, have feelings for and whatnot, they may be right for you.

This from the person who shudders at the thought of marriage.

[progdog]

Life is like sticking your head in a porta-loo........u never know what ur gonna get............;)

[bumpmek]

I believe in fate, destiny and soulmates!

I also believe our lives have already been mapped out for us, we're just going along with the journey! Our future is already planned, i don't believe we can change too much of it either! What happens, happens for a reason!

However these are only my beliefs!

http://www.gifs.net/animate/lin-papillon.gif Bumpy

[fUnKy1]

Do <b>not</b> believe in soulmates. If we all have one soulmate out there, how come when people find theirs, that person just happens to live in the same country, the same state, the same city, the same neighbourhood, is the same age and went to the same school. Pfft.

But once you fall in love, then that person become the only person in the world for you anyway. But i don't believe it was pre-destined. It's just love.

Oh, and if you look for it, you wont find it. I can say that for sure.

f1

[FunkStu]

I think you have many, many soulmates in life.

[bumba]

i believe that everything happens for a reason, everything thats supposed to happen will

i dont think i believe our lives are totally "mapped out" more like we are presented with opportunities to take us where we need to go next, and if you've learnt your lessons in the past, you'll make the right choice

so i dont know if i'll end up blissfully happy ( :p ) with my soulmate, and im not gonna waste time wondering about it or searching...chances are i'll end up on my own,but as long as i learn from what happens between then and now i'll be a happy person ;D

[Iain]

Destiny is a slut!













and im still trying to find her :(

[PlayDj]

Life is confusing, why do things work out the way they do??

What is meant to be?

I believe in karma though..

[fUnKy1]

I think fate is just restrospective. It's just a way of saying, "look where i got, and how i got here". It's nice to think it was "meant to be", but nothing is.

I agree with Bumba - life is just about decisions and crossroads. There are a million ways our life could go - the path we take isn't fated, it's chosen.

f1

[Cosmica]

I agree with bumba, in that destiny is made up of a number of different choices, all leading to a variety of different paths.

Life is a journey in this sense and making the right choices, that are good for the soul are beneficial to ones life.


I wont go into too much with my current r/s, but she came all the way from euope to Melbourne, without meeting anyone else or liking anyone else, and now we are living together.


I believe you can have multiple soul mates, but just because they are soulmates does not mean they will stay in your life forever, people come and go for a reason.

[krafty_x]

There are apparently three kinds of soulmates you may have.

'For a season'
'For a reason'
'For a lifetime'

So there may be many soulmates we will have in our lives. I believe my father and I are soulmates as are my flatmate/best friend and some other people I have shared time with in my life thatare no longer around.

I don't believe in 'the one' though. In fakt I think it is against human nature to mate for life. Shit, look at the stats.

The for a season, for a reason, for a lifetime theory makes sense to me as it is a little more flexible than 'the one' theory and our lives are flexible. We make choices and there are many to choose from and many to make.

k_x oxo

[SpaceMonkey]

If my life was mapped out by someone, I want to meet them and give them a good sound kicking for what they've put me through at cetain points! No complaints about things currently mind you.

[Cosmica]

The "stats" have more to do with traditional roles being skewed by new age rules designed to level the playing field between men and women. This in itself is not a bad thing. It allows for women to be independant, but there is a cost to society, you just described it.

I do believe that it is possible to have a mate for life, its just harder and harder to find anyone decent in todays age, and to find the true "yin and yan" that should exist between men and women.

[bumba]

god damn im smart!!! :lol: :lol: ;)

[Iain]

I girl i love dosent even know i exist :(

[bumba]

Originally posted by Cosmica

I do believe that it is possible to have a mate for life, its just harder and harder to find anyone decent in todays age, and to find the true "yin and yan" that should exist between men and women.

thats because we cant find the true "yin and yang" within ourselves...theres no equality with the male/female strengths and weaknesses within ourselves, therefore we cant have equality in a partnership

i think somewhere along the way womens strengths were turned into weaknesses ie. compassion, empathy, all that "girly" stuff

and now men tend to repress those same qualities because they are seen as weaknesses

so women have fallen into a "girly" trap, and any display of "strength" makes her stand out as a ball-breaker...and men have taken on a real solid-as-a-rock role, when really, being able to have and display their so called "girly" emotions would actually be a greater display of inner strength

[Cosmica]

bumba, I thought it to be the other way around.


All the boys are wimps these days, and arent respected, or resented by women.


All the women are ballbreakers, whingers, selfish, and do not present their feminine side.


Well, Im generalising of course, but you get the drift :)

[Pussytown]

fate is predetermined, you can make choices, but those choices that you have made are also predetermined by fate. Fate is not elusive, you have everything planned prior to your birth.

I stuided philosophy for seven years, it never answers anything, allows you to make up your own conclusions about everything but it surely taught me sooo much about myself.

I also believe in karma, treat others as you would treat yourself.

[sofu]

Originally posted by Iain
I girl i love dosent even know i exist :(
My advice is to stalk her, she'll be screaming out your name soon enough.

[bella boo]

...I don't believe in destiny. You choose your own path in life. You choose what you want to do, how you want to do it, the people you befriend, the people you love.

...in regards to soulmates and 'the one', if you look for it you won't find it. I found what you could call my 'soulmate'. He is my ex-fiance. Even though we've been through so much, and we are no longer together, we are still the best of friends. We share such a special and strong bond, our friendship/relationship is so strong, there are no words to explain it. Is all I can say is it's great!!!

[bumba]

Originally posted by Cosmica
bumba, I thought it to be the other way around.


All the boys are wimps these days, and arent respected, or resented by women.


All the women are ballbreakers, whingers, selfish, and do not present their feminine side.


Well, Im generalising of course, but you get the drift :)

hehehe....and u have illustrated my point exactly :p

maybe if men were "allowed" to get upset, talk about the things that upset them, admit whats going on in their heads, they'd feel emotionally stronger and wouldnt be seen as wimps

maybe a womans feminine side wasnt seen as weak we'd feel that we could revel in it and not go overboard with the ball-breaking

disclaimer: im not saying this about everyone, but look at violent types, people who emotionally/physically/sexually abuse others (be they male or female), people who cannot have an equal relationship with others, they either have to dominate or be dominated...they cant love others because they cant love themselves

[Cosmica]

Sounds like a SNAG to me :)


But yes, it is manly to cry :)

[christlh]

Originally posted by bella boo
...I don't believe in destiny. You choose your own path in life. You choose what you want to do, how you want to do it, the people you befriend, the people you love.
i could not agree more

[Mellow D]

Originally posted by christlh

i could not agree more

Yeah.... but it's still nice to believe that there is such a thing as destiny - even if there isn't.

[christlh]

its nice to believe that there is someone out there for you
but i wouldnt say that is destiny

[Tristan]

Originally posted by bella boo
...I don't believe in destiny. You choose your own path in life. You choose what you want to do, how you want to do it, the people you befriend, the people you love. I think this is pretty spot on. I do think though that some things are meant to happen and that some people are meant to be together.

No matter what you say or do, some people are invariably connected that destiny means they will always end up together. I don't like to think that whatever I do is inconsequential to the path of my life but I like thinking that no matter how many times I stuff up or make a bad decision certain events will happen regardless.

[Mellow D]

I've always believed in destiny and that 'the one' is out there, however, you can only have your heart broken so many times before you start to think that's it's all a load of bullshit!!

[kramis]

Originally posted by Iain
I girl i love dosent even know i exist :( dont worry en,
im sure you'll hook up with audrey one day ;)

[bumba]

Originally posted by Mellow D


Yeah.... but it's still nice to believe that there is such a thing as destiny - even if there isn't.

well the way i see it, u make your own choices and choose your own path, but are given the situations in which to make those decisions

everything that happens to u happens for a reason, its meant to, but u have free will in the way u live life afterwards...i think its like a choose your own adventure book, u make the choice, and it sends u along a certain path, but in the end all the choices lead to u finding the treasure and unmasking the bad guy (hehehe)

ie. an opportunity comes along for u to meet Mr/Miss Right, but because of choices u have made previously u may not have the experience/be in the right frame of mind, to make it work, so your Mr/Miss Right has been wasted...i believe the universe works for u so it will prevent the meeting until you've made enough choices, learnt enough, and are eventually ready

and if u always make the wrong choices, and u never learn, u miss out....and that becomes the lesson u must learn next time around

[littleblonde]

My theory on life is that it is like a highway... you get given a big, multi lane, one way road to follow from beginning to end, but on the way you get sidetracked by sidestreets that look interesting to you.

So you drive down the sidestreet, and another road off that catches your eye and you head down it and so on and so forth until you hit a dead end.

I look at the dead end as something bigger than us saying.. "you can keep going, but if you do, you are going to drive over a cliff/point of no return etc, so I will put an object in your way to stop you, and make you turn back to the main road". The choice is still yours, as to whether you turn back, but if you climb over the wall I see the chances of finding your way back to the road as almost non-existent.

So you make your way around the twists and bends, and get back on to the main road, realising how much easier it is to travel on it, and how much you missed it around all those tight twists and bends of the narrower sts.

All through your life you have the option of driving on this main road, but human nature/fate means that you will be constantly attracted to smaller sidestreets all through your life and want to take them, until you hit a point where you are a bit lost, and something shows you the way back to the main road. You'll ding your car, your heart and everything else on these smaller roads, and every time you hit the main road you want to drive on that for the rest of life, but 6km down the track, something else will attract your attention...

I believe there are roads mapped out for us, and we are given the choice to take the path we want to follow, whether or not it the easiest route or the one we want to follow. Each road has our destiny down that route mapped out, but when we get to a point of no return, an object will be put in our way to deter us from going further, be it a dead end/a wall/a dam etc. You can still go that way, but you will never be the same for it, or you can turn back, but either way is your choice, and with it comes the destiny aligned to that route. I also believe there is more than one soul mate for people.. I have been fortunate enough to meet two of mine so far. One who is my best friend, and the other I am fortunate enough to be dating :)

Life is what you make it.. it is your choices that determines your destiny.

[Mellow D]

Originally posted by bumba


well the way i see it, u make your own choices and choose your own path, but are given the situations in which to make those decisions

everything that happens to u happens for a reason, its meant to, but u have free will in the way u live life afterwards...i think its like a choose your own adventure book, u make the choice, and it sends u along a certain path, but in the end all the choices lead to u finding the treasure and unmasking the bad guy (hehehe)

ie. an opportunity comes along for u to meet Mr/Miss Right, but because of choices u have made previously u may not have the experience/be in the right frame of mind, to make it work, so your Mr/Miss Right has been wasted...i believe the universe works for u so it will prevent the meeting until you've made enough choices, learnt enough, and are eventually ready

and if u always make the wrong choices, and u never learn, u miss out....and that becomes the lesson u must learn next time around

Bumba - you explained that perfectly........

thank-u



:blush:

[feeble]

I don't believe in The One.

For a start, the person who is perfect for you at 17 may not be the person who is perfect for you at 45. The idea of one person who is going to match you in every way and make you eternally happy etc etc vomit is a misguided notion, which can only lead to disappointment- after all, we're all individuals, and to expect someone to live up to all your expectations isn't really fair.

I believe that you meet a number of people in your lifetime that you'll connect with- and if you can learn to love them with all their faults (because there WILL be faults), and their good points, then that's real lurve. Or something. But hell, what do I know?

[fUnKy1]

Wow, that's a real nice way of putting it lb.

[Cosmica]

for some people yes feeble, for others, no.


Some stay married for 50 years, others cant hold a relationship for 6 months.


What you put in you get back.

Luck plays a role, choices play a role, etc etc


But what is true is we all are born alone and we will all die alone.

[Iain]

Originally posted by kramis
dont worry en,
im sure you'll hook up with audrey one day ;)

hopefully,

otherwise im gonna have to settle for Mellow:-0 :P ;) :-0



<small>I think I just over stepped the line ……….. </small>

[krafty_x]

For all our philosophikal garble we're pretty much just animals in the end.

Rock Wallabies mate for life but when researchers followed a family around and DNA tested the children it was diskovered they all had different fathers. Momma Rock Wallaby was getting jiggy with other male members of the Rock Wallaby kommunity while he Daddy Rock Wallaby was out hunting.

Some peeps mate for life. Some don't. Chances are however kwite slim. Stats do point to that fakt. You also kan't tell me that the stats are a result of the modern world. Men and women have been skrewing around on each other since Adam wore shorts. (Longer than prostitution has been a profession anyways.)

Staying married has more to do with komplacency in old age and a different kind of love than any of this 'soulmate' krap.

k_all me jaded but just tellin it like it is really_x oxo

[Mellow D]

Originally posted by Iain


hopefully,

otherwise im gonna have to settle for Mellow:-0 :P ;) :-0



<small>I think I just over stepped the line ……….. </small>


Iain, u cheeky cheeky boy!!!!! :p

[Lord Belial]

littleblonde: nice analogy! I like it! Driving analogies are cool, because then I can think of myself as an MR2 Turbo.... :tripping:

I don't believe in one person perfect for me, there has to be plenty of people around the world that are well suited to being with me (though we wouldn't be perfect together) but they're all in Kazakhstan or Iraq or South Bondi. So I'll settle for finding a nice girl from Perth or maybe Swansea.

No point in searching for The One, just live and love and you won't need to.

[sofu]

"soulmates" -- what a pile of fairytale shit.

[Griggle]

Why all this obsession with finding "The One?" :?

I don't think my life will be any less valuable or fun if I don't find a women who compliments me perfectly. I'm happy with who I am and don't need someone else to complete me.

Maybe I just don't understand the obsession here. If I never meet a girl who is my perfect partner I don't care (It would be nice if I did find one but I'm not gonna lose sleep over it) I have a bunch of great friends already.

If it happens fantastic, if not I'm not gonna be miserable about it. :)

[sofu]

Why all this obsession with finding "The One?"
That was the worst movie. Jet Li should be ashamed of himself. :(

[bella boo]

Originally posted by Cosmica



But what is true is we all are born alone and we will all die alone.



...that is so true!

[Griggle]

Originally posted by sofu

That was the worst movie. Jet Li should be ashamed of himself. :( True. Pamela missed her chance to have the worlds first movie filmed entirely in slow motion. :P

Kiss of the Dragon was also bad. I don't care how corrupt a cop is, running through crowded streets firing automatic weapons isn't just something you do then blame on the guy you were chasing. :|

[Lakiita_]

think i'm with Griggle on this one

why are we all so determined to base our happiness on other people of other things other than ourselves?

for me i don't believe in fate or destiny or the one - i don't believe anything lasts forever and i don't believe in soulmates

i believe we get one life and that's it - that the way you are and the choices you make will determine the people that you are surrounded by and the way you are treated.........like attracts like and you reap what you sow

but no matter how many choices you make there is a lot of luck involved for example the fact that we have choices at all is determined in part by the country we're born in - in a lot of third world countries your choice extends to how you're going to try and find food and that's it.

we're lucky to have choices

[snoochie]

Kiss of the Dragon was also bad.

Jet Li films are always bad.

I hate them yet I'm uncontrollably drawn to them. :p

[bella boo]

...I like Jet Li :|

[GeSter]

All his US movies he has made aren't very good (crap)

his earlier movies KICK ASS
go watch :
Once Upon a Time in China (1991)
Fist of Legend (1994)
Legend, The (1993)

all time classics

how did this thread become about movies?

[snoochie]

well Bella Boo, someone has to ;) :p

I don't mind Jet Li.. I just find that after watching his movies I usually want those hours of my life back. Like I said, I end up uncontrollably drawn to watching his flix.

[Mellow D]

hmmmm....

from finding tru luv to movies!

:lol:

[Iain]

its ok we can talk about lufff Mellow :)




<small>/goes to puke blood at the thought........</small>

[snoochie]

okay I'll make my post more relevant...

Any 'true love' of mine will not be a huge Jet Li fan ;)

[deb112]

i dont believe in Destiny...life is what u make it...everyone makes choices that can change the path of their life

as for finding "The One" i think that society puts too much pressure on ppl to find a life partner and settle down

there is more to life than finding the perfect partner...

at least i hope so

Deb
xx

[Esteban]

just one? but I wanted a harem...