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What's the worse way u have been dumped or have dumped someone else?
Kevmeister
20-Dec-02, 03:11pm
Worst possible way..........................EMAIL
As if you would dump someone via email. CHICKEN SHIT
Be a brave little person and break up with via telling them to your face!
i heard it has been done by sms
:lol:
to the wrong number
bella boo
20-Dec-02, 03:17pm
...never been 'dumped', it's been me or mutual. And I always do it face to face...
Fil8shio
20-Dec-02, 03:19pm
when your BF turned into a kholed drukfkd wnkr. :offchops:
no such thing as MUTUAL......
'mutual' the word people use when they were dumped!
This isn't the worst but it's pretty lame!
I had gone out with this girl twice, called her up mid week to see if she wanted to do anything and she started talking about how she needs some time and how she wanted to put the "relationship" on hold!! hahaha... as far as I can remember we weren't even in a relationship!! I just went yeah whateva then called her back a minute later and said it'd probably be better if we just called it quits right now instead of pretending that you want to see me in the future! Just a little gutless on her part I think, funniest bit is she was a friend of a friend and I somehow became friends with her again..
djsimonmann
20-Dec-02, 03:36pm
Originally posted by jamesy
no such thing as MUTUAL......
'mutual' the word people use when they were dumped!
crap, mature adults can break up mutually, it's called communication...
for example
"do you really think this relationship is working ?"
"well actually I've got a few issues with whatever"
"do you think we would be better if we weren't together?"
"I do, it's just not working, it's not you, it's not me, I just don't think we are suited"
"cool, let's get together and sort it all out next week when I have some free time"
"ok, sounds good"
"take care"
"yeah, you too"
Mellow D
20-Dec-02, 03:36pm
Thanx EN :p
Raverbunny
20-Dec-02, 03:48pm
wow that's pretty full on mellow, i hope your love life gets betta and you are treated right for a change.....wow...i really do have nothing to complain about! u make me very appreciative... :)
Mellow D
20-Dec-02, 03:50pm
Hmmm.... thinking I just divulged way too much info on a forum...........
ive always been the dumper :/
Getting dumped is about as exciting as onions for breakfast.
Originally posted by rezok
Getting dumped is about as exciting as onions for breakfast.
hahaha oi!
ill make u cry : (((((((((((((((((
Miss_B_Havin
20-Dec-02, 03:57pm
MellowD you poor darling! Well, what doesn't kill us only makes us stronger right? I've had a pretty bad run too, but its only made in into the stronger person that I am now. :)
Mellow is a sweet and caring person.
good things end up happening to good souls:)
some guys are just fuck ups.
learn and move on. etc etc etc
MC Sqaured
20-Dec-02, 03:58pm
Originally posted by jamesy
no such thing as MUTUAL......
'mutual' the word people use when they were dumped!
thats so true........
En, I would ask you keep your personal opinions out of the general forum, thank you. :)
Fil8shio
20-Dec-02, 04:04pm
NO breakups pretty fk them! ... Only one way to look face it - embrace the bad time 'cause it can only get better! Thnx for preocupying my dumped ass u guys ;)
MC Sqaured
20-Dec-02, 04:04pm
Originally posted by rezok
En, I would ask you keep your personal opinions out of the general forum, thank you. :)
HUH ???
Oh god, why can't I pick up sluts and then dump them... :(
Griggle
20-Dec-02, 04:19pm
Originally posted by sofu
Oh god, why can't I pick up sluts and then dump them... :( Having seen a pic of your Melbrave Arms, I would have to say because they would be too heavy. :)
Mellow D
20-Dec-02, 04:35pm
Originally posted by Iain
Mellow is a sweet and caring person.
good things end up happening to good souls:)
some guys are just fuck ups.
learn and move on. etc etc etc
Awwww..... thnx hun.
*wrong thread but.......
U gonna be @ 7 2nite??
Originally posted by Mellow D
*wrong thread but.......
U gonna be @ 7 2nite??
awwww, tempting to drop in If your kind self will be there,
but i'll be @ Derrick May, cuz its all about Detroit tonight ;)
Griggle
20-Dec-02, 04:43pm
Originally posted by Iain
awwww, tempting to drop in If your kind self will be there,
but i'll be @ Derrick May, cuz its all about Detroit tonight ;) Playing hard to get? :?
Originally posted by Griggle
Playing hard to get? :?
Priorities ;)
Dirty Sanchez
20-Dec-02, 05:25pm
This topic was covered in a previous thread as well.
What's the worst gf/bf dumping you've heard/done? (http://www.inthemix.com.au/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=32097)
opaline
20-Dec-02, 07:17pm
My de facto girlfriend of three years phoned me while on her stay in China which I paid for to tell me she's eight weeks pregnant with someone elses (her new boyfriend apparently) baby & is going to keep it. She'd been gone for nine weeks & we'd been chatting constantly & sending presents & everything. I wondered why she'd been asking me to send CDs of stuff she didn't even like but found that they'd been for him all along.
She comes back to Australia five months later without having told her parents she's pregnant or that we've broken up. They still think we're getting married. She then shocks the crap out of them with this revelation. She has the baby & a couple of months later rings me up to tell me she's made a mistake & wants me back. I tell her to fuck off!!
I challenge anyone here to beat that!!! She was definately the love of my life & certainly scarred me permanently. Has taken me years to stop wanting her too.
sql_chick
21-Dec-02, 02:18pm
Originally posted by oni0n
ill make u cry : (((((((((((((((((
Is it because you have a 30cm cock? oh no wait, it's because you are an onion....both bring tears to my eyes......:lol:
disclaimer: lameness of joke noted and reliabilty accepted for people failing to swallow crap humour :P
Making a regretful choice that to this day still eats away at you because you'd do anything to change things, because now you realize what a mistake you made!!
‘I wish I was dumped by sms’ (figure of speech to those unfortunates who have)
Then to feel foolish & incompetent, but most awful feeling is the regret & guilt, knowing you were such a fool….
:meh:
BlueSteel
21-Dec-02, 03:50pm
sniff....
*give PlayDj a big hug*
legless
21-Dec-02, 07:32pm
well mine doesnt really sound bad i guess.... but.... i got dumped on the night of seeing my favourite group pretty much ever, Infusion, which i was so amped for ages, and well that kinda put a downer on the night... booo to girls! (okay so the formal dumping happened the next morning but she did the whole storm off and knew it was over that night)
legless
21-Dec-02, 07:35pm
oops i forgot, i dumped a girl on her bday (werent officially kinda going out but had been seeing each other the past 2 weeks) cos she was overbearing and smothering, and well she is now my stalker, or at least thats what we call her :P
...im a classy one...
RoLLrGirL
21-Dec-02, 08:36pm
Uh huh..
I was dumped via sms at Melbourne Airport.
The gutless wonder couldn't do it to my face the night before while I was still in the same state.
:meh:
REAL NAOKI
21-Dec-02, 08:40pm
Originally posted by RoLLrGirL
Uh huh..
I was dumped via sms at Melbourne Airport.
The gutless wonder couldn't do it to my face the night before while I was still in the same state.
:meh:
yeah,RoLLrGirL!via sms.....he is realy f*ckin gutless ay!:-O :-O :-O
REAL NAOKI
21-Dec-02, 08:41pm
Originally posted by legless
oops i forgot, i dumped a girl on her bday (werent officially kinda going out but had been seeing each other the past 2 weeks) cos she was overbearing and smothering, and well she is now my stalker, or at least thats what we call her :P
...im a classy one...
:lol: stalkers are scary!!!! :lol:
boz-monaut
21-Dec-02, 11:31pm
well I had my gf of five years (wife for 2 1/2 of those years) manipulate me into having an open relationship - we'd decided it was a good idea what with us getting together so young and never having shagged anyone else it'd be better to get it out of the way now rather than get to 40 and wish we hadnt missed out on our youth
so anyway with my consent she went off to shag this bloke - I was actually fine with it, she told me there was nothing there and it was just a shag - fair enough I'm not the jealous type
thing is she didnt tell me that she'd actually been with this bloke for a while - the old everyone knew except me thing - she just used the open relationship thing as a cover cause she thought I would find out eventually
anyway she broke up with me and I was totally crushed, fair enough really when you think about it
but that was a whopping 4 1/2 years ago, my only advice to anyone who'd just been dumped - you will get over it, and even if all hope is gone you'll eventually realise that life and love are only temporary - and that's a good thing
SniperChild
22-Dec-02, 06:17pm
I think I've mentioned this before, but I've ben dumped via a letter in my EASTER EGG!!!! How fucking cowardly is that?!
But another bad one was just after adventjah @ Kryal Castle. Get back to friends place ready for a few cones and relaxing, when she decided to reach in and pull out my still beating heart. That comedown was HELL.....
i was going out with this guy for 6 months b4 i broke up with him....by telling him that i knew about his other g/f
so even tho I broke up with HIM, it was still pretty bad for me
i did it well tho, pieced together all the tid-bits of info id been able to glean about her and ended up tracking down her phone number...i actually spoke to her mum and told her, so that she could make the decision as to whether or not she should know (she thought they were getting married)
so i got to call him and say
ME: hey, how are u?
HIM: good, how are u?
ME: im good.....so, i just spoke to Nicoles mum
hehehe
Psycho_182
22-Dec-02, 06:41pm
my mate got dumped by sms
didn't even reply or answer when he asked why!!!
what a slut!
Crusher_13
22-Dec-02, 07:02pm
i win this one hands down.
was in a long distance relationship, went to see the girl in nz from canberra, had a great time with her. get home after being driven home from sydney airport to canberra. go to write email telling her that i am alright and had a email waiting for me from her. basically said thaty she thaught that we should end it, cause the 6 months we had been through with each other was to hard.
she broke my heart:~(
I got dumped, on Valentine's Day, via ICQ - 10 minutes before I was to leave home to go pick her up and take her to dinner at a rather nice Brisbane restaurant, the reservation for which had been made a month before.
Sabishii
22-Dec-02, 08:50pm
Get back to friends place ready for a few cones and relaxing, when she decided to reach in and pull out my still beating heart. That comedown was HELL.....
Been there, done that too. :~(
Finding your boy putting love declarations on other forums to other people sucks too.
Sabishii
22-Dec-02, 08:52pm
And then he decided listening to tool was a really good idea.
Going out w/ this chick 4 4 months. Having been in love before, and never feeling this good, makes me think that we've got something special. 4 months of bliss, not 1 fight or argument. I get as close 2 her as i ever have, secrets i swore i'd take 2 the grave were told to her in 1/2 a second. Done things 2 and/or 4 her i could never imagine.
Next night she giggles, i go wot, she says, u know xxx, i'm like yeah, she goes i like him. BUT i still want u 2 b my best friend, and I still love u, but in a different way now. The night b4 we were going @ it like always...
So now i'm dumped and she's got another BF (she'd know the guy 4 years), but i'm still about, still talking, still seeing her and her BF.
Sometimes I wish I hadn't promised I wouldn't walk away from her unless she asked me to. I don't break promises...
plantled
23-Dec-02, 10:05am
Originally posted by djway
So now i'm dumped and she's got another BF (she'd know the guy 4 years), but i'm still about, still talking, still seeing her and her BF.
Sometimes I wish I hadn't promised I wouldn't walk away from her unless she asked me to. I don't break promises...
Dude, this is called emotional manipulation - she can't have the best of both worlds. It's just not fair. She made her bed, now let her lie in it. People should not play with others' emotions like this, and as shite as it may feel now, let it go, it is only committing emotional suicide by allowing yourself to be used. Have some respect for yourself and walk away. It is her loss not yours. Don't go thinking you are breaking promises - do you really think your ex is doing the honorable thing? She is not showing you the same (misguided) respect you are showing her. The most important thing in life is being true to yourself. Putting others' happiness b4 your own is not healthy.
I think I would be the serial Dumper.
I've had 2 long relationships, both for about 2 years. The first ended terrible, actually he was pretty pathetic I cheat a few time and every time I told him and he said he didn’t care, in the end I lost all respect - he has only just started talking to me after 5 years of being separated. I think I might of hurt him (he actually told me the reason he cheat on his girlfriend now is cause I did it to him).
The second is the worst. Long distance relationships never work, I tried but he didn’t, I found my new boyfriend that I’m with now while out one nite, then my ex tells me he's ready to move up in 2 weeks with me and that he has given his work notice and little to his knowledge that I was pretty much living with my new boyfriend now. It got to the last minute (slack I know) he was at my door with all his stuff and I told him he couldn’t come in and that I was seeing some one else, then he left. I haven’t really seen or heard from him since.
I’m glad it did it though. I’m still with my boyfriend and I’m happier then I was in my last relationship and I haven’t been unfaithful.
Lakiita_
23-Dec-02, 02:53pm
just out of curiosity Texas
why didn't you let your boyfriend know before he moved that you no longer wished to be with him
was it that impossible to say?
Cause I thought that I did want him to move in with him..... But when it came down to it I had to weigh up my option, be with a guy that I was passionately in love with or be with a guy that’s had just become a habit - I went with my heart.
I now realise what I made my ex give up and I feel terrible for it, but I don’t regret anything that I done. Everything happened for a reason.
I supposed that every story in this forum has a reasonable explanation behind it
Dirty Sanchez
23-Dec-02, 03:39pm
Originally posted by texas
Cause I thought that I did want him to move in with him..... But when it came down to it I had to weigh up my option, be with a guy that I was passionately in love with or be with a guy that’s had just become a habit - I went with my heart.
I now realise what I made my ex give up and I feel terrible for it, but I don’t regret anything that I done. Everything happened for a reason.
I supposed that every story in this forum has a reasonable explanation behind it
If you call being a selfish self-centred bitch reasonable then yes, you were being reasonable. You should have had the guts to tell him BEFORE he packed up his life to be with you.
If everything happens for a reason then the only reason I can see your ex was supposed to go out with you was to teach him the cruel hard lesson of the type of chick to avoid in future.
I’m glad it did it though. I’m still with my boyfriend and I’m happier then I was in my last relationship and I haven’t been unfaithful.
You say this like it's a badge of honour. I would add the word "YET" on the end of that. Once a cheater, always a cheater, and it is only a matter of time. You have proven your capacity to do so time and time again. I pity your boyfriend.
Someone certainly hurt you now didn’t they
I didn't intend for things to work out the way they did, when it came down to it I made a decision (i admit it properly a bit to late) like I said I’m sure that every story in here has a reasonable explanation behind it. And mine dose.
You call me a self-centred bitch, but just like everyone and probably yourself you look out for yourself first, and answer question later. Of course you take things into consideration but when it comes down to it, you take the option that pleases you the most.
As for the whole cheating on my current boyfriend, hasn't and won't happen.
maxhardcore
23-Dec-02, 04:17pm
Originally posted by texas
The second is the worst. Long distance relationships never work, I tried but he didn’t, I found my new boyfriend that I’m with now while out one nite, then my ex tells me he's ready to move up in 2 weeks with me and that he has given his work notice and little to his knowledge that I was pretty much living with my new boyfriend now. It got to the last minute (slack I know) he was at my door with all his stuff and I told him he couldn’t come in and that I was seeing some one else, then he left. I haven’t really seen or heard from him since.
I’m glad it did it though. I’m still with my boyfriend and I’m happier then I was in my last relationship and I haven’t been unfaithful.
It makes me sick reading that.
Dirty Sanchez
23-Dec-02, 04:20pm
Someone certainly hurt you now didn’t they
No, but someone did hurt a very good friend of mine who packed up his life and moved to New York for her only to be dumped an hour after he arrived. Read my earlier post linking to an earlier thread for the whole sad story.
You call me a self-centred bitch, but just like everyone and probably yourself you look out for yourself first, and answer question later. Of course you take things into consideration but when it comes down to it, you take the option that pleases you the most.
And this is why I believe you will do it again. You failed to include the words "without hurting others in the process". Of course we all look after our own interests, but the difference between you and me is that you look after yours at the expense of others. I don't.
As for the whole cheating on my current boyfriend, hasn't and won't happen.
Never say never. What happens after the honeymoon period when he "becomes a habit" and someone new is stirring your loins? I think we both know the answer to that.
phunkstar22
23-Dec-02, 11:35pm
I agree. Don't let her walk all over you.
I had been with my boyfriend for 4 years when I called him while I was out drinking one night just to say hello. He sounded strange, I asked what was wrong and he said he didn't know about us anymore. Simple as that. He fucked around for days with his decision, while I was an emotional wreck. In the end I decided that I couldn't be his friend and thats that. Well not really, then comes all the shit after the breakup. Basically a clean break is the only thing to do. Definitely not the worst senario on here but still horrible for me.
phunkstar22
23-Dec-02, 11:42pm
Disregard what I said about I agree with her....
That was for another post.
But yeah Texas, very thoughless, very selfish and very immature.
Its ok though, what goes around, comes around.
Tyler Durden
23-Dec-02, 11:50pm
DURING HSC!!
MiNxRaviN
24-Dec-02, 12:24am
Been dumped over what i would rather not reveal..
However....
It was the best thing that could of ever happened to me
because if it hadnt , i wouldnt be the person i am today ...
The past year has , i believe , changed me and made me into the
person i want to be...
And for that i could never thank the person more for treating me the way they did because if they didnt i would still be the nieve stupid little girl i was ....
Things happen for a reason ...
And once u figure out the reason ...
You can begin to appreciate it and
Learn to live life ....
After all when something is real no matter what
it will prevail in the end ....
Never hold a grudge ....
As it will consume you ...
Just know that u CAN live without hate
but CAN'T live without love...
Never forgive and forget ....
but do forgive and know that people can change....
When it seems like you have nothing just know
HOPE....
There is always a light at the end of the tunnel no matter how dark it may seem....
a girl in year 3 called Lisa didnt even have the guts to confront me, her best friend michelle told me she liked my mate William.. and she added I was dumb
can't seem to move on =~(
peakn_duck
24-Dec-02, 03:38am
ive never been in a long relationship before
i feel proud about myself 2
no bitch is going 2 fuk me around
nothing wrong with long-term relationships if they are good as long as you can find the right person
phunkstar22
24-Dec-02, 02:17pm
Originally posted by MiNxRaviN
Been dumped over what i would rather not reveal..
However....
It was the best thing that could of ever happened to me
because if it hadnt , i wouldnt be the person i am today ...
The past year has , i believe , changed me and made me into the
person i want to be...
And for that i could never thank the person more for treating me the way they did because if they didnt i would still be the nieve stupid little girl i was ....
Things happen for a reason ...
And once u figure out the reason ...
You can begin to appreciate it and
Learn to live life ....
After all when something is real no matter what
it will prevail in the end ....
Never hold a grudge ....
As it will consume you ...
Just know that u CAN live without hate
but CAN'T live without love...
Never forgive and forget ....
but do forgive and know that people can change....
When it seems like you have nothing just know
HOPE....
There is always a light at the end of the tunnel no matter how dark it may seem....
Couldn't have said it better myself. AMEN!
Mellow D
24-Dec-02, 02:20pm
Been dumped over what i would rather not reveal..
However....
It was the best thing that could of ever happened to me
because if it hadnt , i wouldnt be the person i am today ...
The past year has , i believe , changed me and made me into the
person i want to be...
And for that i could never thank the person more for treating me the way they did because if they didnt i would still be the nieve stupid little girl i was ....
Things happen for a reason ...
And once u figure out the reason ...
You can begin to appreciate it and
Learn to live life ....
After all when something is real no matter what
it will prevail in the end ....
Never hold a grudge ....
As it will consume you ...
Just know that u CAN live without hate
but CAN'T live without love...
Never forgive and forget ....
but do forgive and know that people can change....
When it seems like you have nothing just know
HOPE....
There is always a light at the end of the tunnel no matter how dark it may seem....
Nice way to put it!
Originally posted by texas
Cause I thought that I did want him to move in with him..... But when it came down to it I had to weigh up my option, be with a guy that I was passionately in love with or be with a guy that’s had just become a habit - I went with my heart.
I now realise what I made my ex give up and I feel terrible for it, but I don’t regret anything that I done. Everything happened for a reason.
That "everything happens for a reason" argument simply doesn't wash. It's got to be the harshest thing you could say to someone whose heart you've just broken, and the most sorry-assed, lamest excuse to give for not staying true to the feelings you once had for the first guy. Place yourself on the receiving end of this treatment and see if you still don't regret it, you heartless bitch. The fact you cheated makes it twice as bad, too - it shows a lack of respect for yourself, and those you say you love. :|
Merry Christmas, from someone who has seen way too much of this immature behaviour in his life.
opaline
24-Dec-02, 03:15pm
I agree with you people that every time I've been dumped it has made me a stronger person & that I wouldn't be the person I am today without said dumpings.
But at the same time I must say that I am a far less trusting person than I once was & am able to give less & less love to every relationship. This has caused me problems in recent relationships. I'm negative about everything & am always waiting for my partner to screw up rather than giving them the "innocent until proven guilty" treatment. This is not fair on my partners as I don't feel I can quite give myself to them like I would wish.
All of this stems from having my heart smashed one too many times. It grows back stronger but colder. I've started to think primarily with my head which I don't think is the way human beings should be. I ignore what my heart tells me. Although I am totally in control of myself most of the time I sometimes feel that I would be better off if I wasn't, if I could let my heart go for a minute. I rationalise everything down to what is theoretically the right thing to feel & then force myself to feel it instead of just letting myself go. I talk myself into it to save myself the pain. Gives me major headaches as it doesn't always work & then I despise myself for being weak when really I'm despising my own humanity.
I see this same behaviour in a couple of my best friends who've received some horrible dumpings in the past. I'm lucky as I have a massively inflated ego which helps me to continue to get up off the deck. Some aren't so lucky.
People, be honest with your partner. It's not about what you can get from someone. It's about what you can share with someone. If they're sharing with you, you owe it to them to share too. If you feel it's not working, talk to them about it. Hopefully they will be mature enough to appreciate your honesty & try to help the situation or end it ammicably. When dumping someone harshly, you might think they'll get over it in time & they WILL get over YOU, but there are some scars that just don't heal. Be aware of that.
Originally posted by opaline
...there are some scars that just don't heal...
Hit the nail right on the head, buddy. I might be a much stronger person than I once was, but it comes at a high price.
my ex who i was with for a yr broke up with me on icq the week after i gave her a 70buck necklace..and more recently i sent some chick a flower i had met a few wks earlier and she stopped talking to me weird weirdd
Originally posted by tim-e
Hit the nail right on the head, buddy. I might be a much stronger person than I once was, but it comes at a high price.
Aiii - true dat!
Very high price.
Lakiita_
27-Dec-02, 01:53pm
i think becoming colder and giving less is all part of growing up
within reason of course
i've seen obsessive, all-consuming love and its not healthy
better that our first loves don't work i think and that we learn to keep a piece of ourselves for ourselves
again within reason of course - completely heartless and unable to give anything is not good either.
gleeker
28-Dec-02, 09:53am
Texas - there is actually a clinical definition for people who behave in the same manner as you. Sociopath.
Opaline, Tim-e, you're right about the scars.
1.5 years down the track and I'm still scared shitless of getting close to anyone. Its not fair is it? You give everything you have to someone, and they take it and fuck it up, and you're the one left with the big ugly slashes of scar tissue across your soul.
It would be so easy to turn cold and heartless and run rampage, treating other people the way I've been treated, but I just can't. I haven't got it in me. Learning to trust and love again is the hardest thing, but in the end its the only way... and if I get messed up again, then at least I'll know I've been brave enough to feel something and not let the actions of other people ruin me.
Argh end emotional rant :~(
micropenis
28-Dec-02, 11:13am
I came out brown.
Lord Belial
28-Dec-02, 02:37pm
Originally posted by bumba
so i got to call him and say
ME: hey, how are u?
HIM: good, how are u?
ME: im good.....so, i just spoke to Nicoles mum
hehehe
:-O Nice one! Fuck that's awesome! Respect! XD
texas: *sigh* you are a coward, a cheating coward at that. If you're going to break up with someone you should at least try to make it as easy as possible for both sides.
phunkstar22
29-Dec-02, 10:09pm
That whole first love thing is so true. I think everyone needs their time on their own to experience things for themselves. It can be quite unhealthy being in a long term relationship while you are still young. I think that you can loose sight of yourself and your needs because you are constantly thinking about pleasing the other person. Its such a hard thing to go through...but in the end you truly do come out on top, its just a matter of changing the way you think about things.
I'm just glad that my first love broke up with me now instead of another 4 years down the track.....yikes!!!!
Originally posted by Lord Belial
:-O Nice one! Fuck that's awesome! Respect! XD
u think so? hehehe...thanx!
and it got better....
HIM: who?
ME: Nicole's mum
HIM: who's Nicole?
ME: YOUR OTHER GIRLFRIEND
Tyler Durden
30-Dec-02, 07:43pm
waffles
CookieMonster78
30-Dec-02, 09:07pm
Bumba: good on you for
/guest on Ricki Lake voice
kicking that no good cheating bastard to the curb
/end guest on Ricki Lake voice
seriously though, I'd much rather be the dumper than the dumpee. Having come out of a fairly long term relationship (5 and a half years) 4 months ago, I (the initiator of the break up) am coping just fine, in fact better than fine. While he is struggling from what I can tell. Sure I felt bad for causing him pain, it was really difficult for a while, but now I look back and I realise that he is better off without me anyway (whether he realises it or not). Cos if the situation were reversed and he broke up with me, I know I would be better off without someone who no longer felt the same about me as I did about them. Does that even make any sense?? :|
bananamonkey
30-Dec-02, 09:57pm
I have been dumped once. It was only a teenage thing and I wasn't even worried about it. I have dumped a few, but not in bad ways. But in my relationship history mutual break ups are used a fair bit. Like both deciding distance, age and other commitments aren't working with the relationship.
AS many of you are probably aware I split with my boyfriend, Si, cos I was moving here. It was bizarre as I literally gave him a six week notice that I was going to Australia and it would all end. Though we have agreed to see other people and I am only out here for two so I hope to get back and we hope to get back together, though that is the future. We will see!
Laws :)
[QUOTE]Originally posted by fillet
more recently i sent some chick a flower i had met a few wks earlier and she stopped talking to me weird weirdd [/QUOTE
Not really that weird... a few weeks after meeting a girl may be a little early to start sending flowers.. flowers more often than not have feelings of love or care put behind them .. I wouldn't be suprised if she freaked out thinking you were already in love with her after 3 weeks!
circular
31-Dec-02, 01:56am
yeah, flowers that soon would freak me out slightly.
I've only been dumped once, when I was 14, it was one of those schoolyard relationships that don't mean anything much. I remember the exact words he used "Hey Babs, you're dumped!" so I told him to get the fuk out of my house. He was playin mario bros on our nintendo and wanted to finish the level, so he's like "I've changed my mind! Let me keep playing and I'll go out with you again."
Needless to say, I kicked him out.
The worst way I've dumped someone is by using the "It's not you, it's me" line (thankyou seinfeld, for that little gem).
It's so patronising, I felt like a total bitch saying it.
JulesPLees
31-Dec-02, 01:58am
Originally posted by Bushy
[QUOTE]Originally posted by fillet
more recently i sent some chick a flower i had met a few wks earlier and she stopped talking to me weird weirdd [/QUOTE
Not really that weird... a few weeks after meeting a girl may be a little early to start sending flowers.. flowers more often than not have feelings of love or care put behind them .. I wouldn't be suprised if she freaked out thinking you were already in love with her after 3 weeks!
Really! I dunno about that. I reckon its a nice gesture.
circular
31-Dec-02, 02:10am
Originally posted by JulesPLees
Really! I dunno about that. I reckon its a nice gesture.
It prolly depends on what sort of flower it was. A daisy (or similar flower) would be okay, nice n' friendly, but not too intense.
A rose on the other hand (especially a red one) might seem a bit obsessive. A whole bunch of red roses too early in the relationship would make me start contemplating a restraining order. No one wants to hook up with a mentally-unstable stalker.
Hey, can you tell how bored I am tonight?
It could be a nice gesture if you've known the person for a fair while and only started going out with them.. but someone you've picked up out of the blue from a nightclub and gone out with for a few weeks will definitely take that the wrong way!
If you're going to something a bit special or formal with her then maybe just maybe..
circular, I think we've all done the "it's not you it's me" at one stage!! Sometimes it just easier than saying "I don't like you!" :lol:
Originally posted by circular
It prolly depends on what sort of flower it was. A daisy (or similar flower) would be okay, nice n' friendly, but not too intense.
A rose on the other hand (especially a red one) might seem a bit obsessive. A whole bunch of red roses too early in the relationship would make me start contemplating a restraining order. No one wants to hook up with a mentally-unstable stalker.
Hey, can you tell how bored I am tonight?
You could have a good point there with the type of flower......
But personally i'd rather be safe and send nothing.. girls don't seem to be too interested in guys that are too nice to begin with..
Hmmm.. there are a few bored peeps on the forums tonight.. (including myself) Trying to save braincells, save money and adjust the body clock for tommorrow night is the only reason i'm still up and about :meh:
Off the thread topic, and into the flower topic...
I think it depends on what you've been doing together over the last few weeks. I met a girl a month ago. we started going out last weekend. Since then (two Fridays ago) she's been with me 24 hours a day for at least half the time (it's a medium distance relationship, we have to travel to be together). I don't think flowers, even roses would freak her out. But, if I'd only gone on two short dates (movie / dinner) in that time I could see how it could freak her out.
alieshak2002
31-Dec-02, 12:01pm
tOUCH wOOD!! >> Ive never been dumped, I've come to agreements thats it just plain not working, but never been cheated on or dumped without reason.......It seems as though I have this remarkable quality in making my lovers cry though...You can't imagine what it does to me to see someone you've loved breakdown in front of your eyes...I wish to never experience this again...I think I love too deep...So nowadayz I'm satisfied with being the single Liesh, it's a lot easier on my life and my heart :D
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